It's inevitable - children change marriage. The way this happens is determined by the priorities couples set consciously and/or unconsciously. Some people marry with the intention of being lifetime partners first, and parents second. Others put parenthood on the front burner and their spouse on the back. Children need parents who are devoted to each other, who can provide a secure base for them, and with whom they feel safe. They need to see that Mommy loves Daddy most, not them. It has been said that the best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.