If you knew the secret history of those you'd like to punish, you'd find a suffering & sorrow to disarm all your hostility.
Happiness is an elusive topic that has been studied and contemplated by many throughout history. While there are many theories and ideas of what it means to be happy, I decided to focus on the relational aspect of happiness in this blog. As an Imago relationship therapist and someone who specializes in helping my clients achieve happy and healthy relationships I have come to view much of happiness through a relational lens. Read more »
Wondering what you can do to improve your marriage or committed relationship, even if your partner is resistant to change? Check out this video with Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., as he explains how it takes only one person to make a relationship better.
Most people would define stress as an overall negative feeling. What kind of feeling, exactly? Stress might feel like:
In other words, stress is an actual, definable emotion, not just a vague, amorphous catchall. The danger in always using the word “stress” rather than naming the actual feeling is that we lose the right to be okay with it. Read more »
I watched the supper bowl half time show. Beyonce was just fantastic! She is such a celebrity!I have always been curious about our fascination with celebrities. Maybe we try to attach our identity to theirs to feel successful, beautiful or powerful. It is fun to dress up like a celebrity or to buy the products they endorse. Read more »
In my work as a couples therapist, I often have couples complain to me about their partner's anger management issues. As a mother myself, I never knew how angry I could get until I had children!
Chronic anger can erode and break relationships and has a huge long-term physical, emotional, interpersonal, and spiritual costs. Read more »
My latest blog I wrote for Pamela's Punch, Vindication: Why We Feel The Need & What We Can Do About It, explores how vindication and healing go together. Why is vindication so important in being able to move on? How can we move forward even without vindication or justice?
The title of Byron Katie’s book, Loving What Is, speaks for itself. Instead of wanting what is not, we can learn to accept and even love what is, which Byron Katie calls reality. It is human nature to want more. We think more is better and that more will fulfill us and make us feel happier. But how much more is enough? And is more necessarily good for us? Research shows that after a certain point, money no longer satisfies; the same with food and sex and things.
The Guardian just published a very interesting article, Forget Mars and Venus--there is no great sex difference. Read more »