Giving thanks. Joy to the World. Peace on Earth. Festivals of Light. Goodwill to Men. While these wonderful holiday sayings and notions can warm our hearts and spirits, the reality is that often thanks, joy, and peace do not find their way into our own homes and lives during the holiday season. Instead, people feel overwhelmed with budget woes, long "to-do" lists, visiting relatives, and mall traffic. It's no surprise that as the holidays approach couples report an increase in relational tension and disconnection.