You wouldn't think of flying in an airplane with a pilot who had no training. Making your marriage fly is a far more complex task, yet you probably had almost no formal preparation. You and your partner simply got in the cockpit and took off, hoping not to crash but not really knowing how to avoid a disaster. Now that you're airborne, you may be reluctant to ask for help, thinking that you ought to be able to figure it out on your own. That attitude can be tragically short sighted.