"I give her flowers, I buy her books and jewelry, and yet she complains that I do not love her! What am I doing wrong?" "I am sensitive to my husband's physical needs and try to please him in bed and yet he wonders if I really love him. What does he want?" The stories and confusion go on and on. Even couples who consciously try to love and please their partners are often thwarted and disappointed to find that they fail repeatedly to meet their partner's needs.