One of my author’s to love is John O’Donahue.He’s a treasure of a poet whose untimely passing in 2008 jarred a lot of us; yet, not surprisingly, his work continues to inspire.One of O’Donahue’s books, entitled,To Bless...
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Summer nights and skinny-dipping. Ah, the risk, the romance! To be sure, most of us have no trouble remembering all the fun stuff that colored the beginning stages of our relationships. We seem to find ourselves seduced into the...
Before I became a therapist, for 22 years I taught English to high school students. During that time, I had the opportunity to get close to lots of wonderful students; some of them were pretty wobbly souls (remember the...
In this day and age it is common knowledge that the origin of many of our rough edges and soft spotsgo back to our past with parents and other significant caregivers. Good therapy acknowledges this, but also believes that...
One of the challenges of mature relationships is balancing healthy closeness with healthy separateness. You may feel the sting of needing to grow in this area if you find yourself wanting a boys night out but are afraid to...
“You are so critical and hyper!” “You are so withdrawn and unsupportive!” We all tend to be experts on what is wrong with our partners. Certainly, this level of awareness is an important starting point when considering our troubled...
In her book Bring Yourself to Love, Mona Barbera, Ph.D., offers the idea of “giving better back” as a way to affect real change in your relationships. Rather than getting hooked into to a predictably toxic discussions, she suggests...
Anyone in a long-term relationship knows about the trivial frustrations that creep into daily life. We find ourselves keeping score and bickering over silly things like dishes left in the sink; where to go to eat; the toilet seat...