Author: Robert Gordon
Barbara Rainey writes,”When God created woman, He gave her multiple avenues for expressing the essence of her sexuality—her femaleness. Because I am a woman, I can participate in sexual intercourse with my husband. I can conceive a child and experience the miraculous process of creating a life in my body over nine months. My husband […]
READ ARTICLEA current focus in the work of Haville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, the co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy, is uprooting negativity from marital interaction. Hendrix defines negativity as “any thought, word, or deed that tells a partner: ‘You’re not okay when you think what you think or act the way that you act.’” Hendrix […]
READ ARTICLEMuch has been written on why porn is an issue for women. This blog will address a less public problem: Why is it a problem for men, and how does it affect their relationships? High-speed Internet porn may be the fastest moving, most global influence on male sexuality, sexual performance, and relationship dynamics in history. […]
READ ARTICLEBack in the days of hippies, there was a spiritual teacher and commune leader named Stephen Gaskin. I once saw Stephen speak at a university venue I can no longer remember. But I vividly remember his description of the way his life changed when he took the Bodhisattva Vow. In Mahayana Buddhism, the ideal is […]
READ ARTICLEEver since I began what has since become a multi-faceted career revolving around human psychology, behavior, and performance, I have been fascinated with the science (and even the oddball speculation) that underlies whether, and how, people are able to bring about what they say they want. I have been convinced that success isn’t merely a question […]
READ ARTICLEEven after a career as a human performance specialist and now as a life coach and therapist, I’m still naïve enough to be tempted to implement a dozen or so good New Year’s resolutions. But this year I’m clinging to two principles: “First things first” and “biggest bang for the buck.” The adage from of […]
READ ARTICLEAttachment parenting is a term coined by pediatrician and father William Sears. A number of attachment parenting bloggers like this wiki definition of attachment parenting, and so do I: Attachment parenting is a parenting philosophy based on the principles of attachment theory in developmental psychology. According to attachment theory, the child forms a strong emotional […]
READ ARTICLE“How can he not know how horribly inappropriate it was to give me a blender for my birthday?” “Does she not get that I can’t just spill my guts on demand? Why is she all up in my face with “What’s wrong? Talk to me!” “Do I have to write him a (expletive deleted) manual […]
READ ARTICLEDid you know that some of the best resources available to a professional career counselor are available to anyone, and for free? True. I learned of some of them firsthand during my tenure at the US Employment and Training Administration, whose charge includes the development, training, and retraining of the American workforce; and at the […]
READ ARTICLEI was recently asked to identify the key factors that make employees satisfied and engaged on the job. Two theories came to mind, and both have proved themselves true in my experience in human performance improvement in a number of organizations. One is Frederick Herzberg’s Motivation Hygiene theory (aka Two Factor theory). Good description here: […]
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