Conquering the Comparing Mind with Imago

Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.

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Imago on the Spectrum

Imago Relationship Therapy works for us because it brings intentionality, rules and time.

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Dream Relationship Checklist

Surviving or Thriving What if there was a checklist of things we could do to have our DREAM relationship? Dreaming, envisioning, aspiring, these are invitations to curiosity, hope, and self-awareness. When curiosity is on board, connection is possible. Curiosity is a close cousin to safety. Relationships thrive when there is safety. When in distress we […]

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Divorce/Breakup: Unveiling the Benefits of a Support Group

Understanding that divorce /Breakup is a life-altering event that can bring about a range of emotions, uncertainties, and challenges. Going through the process alone can be overwhelming and isolating.  You don’t have to go it alone. A divorce support group is a lifeline available for individuals navigating the stormy waters of divorce. 

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Help! How to Write My Wedding Vows

Crying Out for Love My fiancé and I are getting married next month, and the process of planning a wedding as a couples counselor is an interesting one. As an Imago therapist, I very much believe in Harville Hendrix’s explanation of the journey of love – how, when we first fall in love, our partner […]

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Do you want to change your relationship? Change your Lens!

Change your lens, change your relationship! First of all, how would your relationship be different if you approached your partner reflecting on two questions: What can I celebrate in my partner? and 2. What’s right with our relationship? This sounds challenging, right? We are not programmed this way! Our default is looking for what’s not […]

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Parenting in the desert not the village

Navigating a world where there’s no room for parenthood. When I moved to the U.S. I knew I was giving up many things for a better career. I would miss the food back home, my former lifestyle, and, most of all, my family. What I didn’t know was that this feeling would resurface years later, […]

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Are you fueling your resiliency?

What do rubber bands, willow trees, and roly-poly dolls have in common? Answer: Flexibility under pressure and the capacity to bounce back after stress. In other words: resilience! The past two years have called for all kinds of resilience from us — as individuals, as couples, as families, as a nation, and as a world. […]

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Get Unstuck: Letting Go of Childhood Memories

In a session I had recently with a couple, a husband told his wife that he wants to help her find peace when she is “off the rails.” He does this by problem-solving and suggesting different ways of looking at the situation.  They both agreed that this almost never works, but only escalates her anger […]

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Welcome to the Relationship Hall of Fame

Hall of Famers At Bat John Gottman’s research tells us that 67%* of the differences between partners are unresolvable and THIS is the good news. Recently I was talking shop with my brother, whose field of work is vastly different than my own. I mentioned this fact to him and his immediate, and absolutely fabulous […]

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