Giving and Receiving

What if you made a daily practice of giving and receiving? What would it be like for you to be intentional about your connection to your partner? Why not spend December giving gifts of your self and receiving all of the gifts that you are offered. This means receiving praise, compliments, and offered help. It means giving things that are not tangible, wrap-able or purchased on Amazon.

Reposted from @relationshipsfirst By nature, as humans, we want to know things. Right now, uncertainty is all around us, and that can raise #stress and make our #relationships seem even more difficult. . Harville and Helen suggest that it's OK to not know things. Why? Because then you can show CURIOSITY. Ask your friends and family how they are doing and what they are thinking. . In addition to helping you connect, you might also learn new, fun things about each other! . . . #relationshipsfirst #bettertogether #safeconversations #communication #growth #connection #communciationskills #growthmindset #communicate #communicatebetter #buildingfoundations #relationshipscience - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Take turns talking and listening. We want to tell you a story. This is how we came up with the process of Safe Conversations! We were in a fight one day, and Helen came up with the idea: "Let's take turns talking. One of us talk, and the other one listen." Taking turns has been helping us and other couples connect ever since! - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Strengthening Relationships During Coronavirus Times • Tip # 4 We reject the phrase "social distancing" because it deprives us of what we need most. We suggest the mandate you follow is "physical distancing," not social distancing, and practice "social connecting." Healthy relationships strengthen your immune system as a defense against the virus. Our message of hope is for everyone: human connection is still possible and vital. - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Strengthening Relationships During Coronavirus Times Tip # 3 • Do you ever say something to someone and feel like you just are not understood? Harville and Helen have a solution for you - Mirroring! Mirroring is one of the steps in Safe Conversations. See a demonstration of mirroring in this short video. https://youtu.be/wCHeet-KPbA - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Ask "Is now a good time?" This way, people you want to talk with will be able to focus on what you're saying instead of being distracted or in the middle of something else. If someone asks to talk, and it's not a good time, just say when is better. This will keep your conversations safe instead of rushed and stressed! - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Hi friends! Here's a message of hope from Harville & Helen. Did you know that healthy relationships helps your immune system? - #regrann ...

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May we forever be changed by what happens next. Let us slow down, like we never have before. Give thanks like we never have before. Celebrate the smallest things like we never have before. ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us Don't tell me you don't have time to hug for a minute! If you do nothing else for your relationship, step into each other's arms, find his/her heart beat, breathe with your beloved, just hold each other in this silent sacred space. 💞 Hugging communicates love better than almost anything else. 💞 Hugging kicks in nature's attachment chemistry. At 30 seconds the brain sends a message to produce dopamine. At 40 seconds the brain releases dopamine into your bloodstream. At 60 seconds dopamine is actively flowing throughout your body. #hugmore 💞 Hug once a day, "whether you need it or not!" 💞 Hug, it feels good! #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #validation #gettingtheloveyouwant Learn more about having the relationship you dream of. Join me and my husband @dmdworkin for Getting the Love You Want. Spreading the message to do something today to connect consciously to the one you love. April 18-19. In the Nation's Capitol! Be the change you want in the world. #changinftheworldonerelationshipatatime @imagocenterdc - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @deborahfoxmsw The impact of early adverse experiences that were never resolved remain lodged within you. Even though decades have passed, the impact hasn’t disappeared into thin air because your nervous system doesn’t know the passage of time. When you feel threatened, even mildly, by your partner , your nervous system alerts and is ready to protect you. This same protective response serves as a barrier between you and your partner. You’re instantly ready to fight or to flee, neither of which leads to good communication or understanding. What to do? Stop the quarrel, take a time out and reflect on what you were feeling in the very first moments of the conflict. Allow your nervous system to settle into neutral and then talk with your partner. If this doesn’t lead to a better place, you could consider seeing a trauma-informed couples therapist. - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us End all mental and verbal criticism. Thinking it is almost as effective as saying it. Why is this? Because your brain will treat your thoughts exactly the same as it treats what you actually say, what you imagine you said, what you remember saying and what you wish you said. The brain does not distinguish between thinking it and saying it. So....your unconscious will act as if. As if you said it! You will be wholly defended as if you said it. You will be reacting as if you said it. Your energy will reflect as if you said it. What if IT was kind, loving, curious, engaging, hopeful, trusting, and positive? How would that change the #spacebetweenus? #bethechangeyouwanttosee #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #marriagegoals #zeronegativity #beingourbestselves #gettingtheloveyouwant ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us That sends shivers down my back, a smile to my face, a longing in my core. 🥰 Do it again. The more we snuggle, and kiss, caress and fondle, the more we want to! 😍 Will you be my valentine means will you let me know what you want? 😘 Will you tell me what you need? ☺ Will you let me be you person? 🤩 Will you be there when I am down and when I am up? 🤣 Will you laugh with me until I cry? 🤒 Will you care for me when I am a terrible patient? 😴 Will you still love me when I snore? 🥳 Will you celebrate my successes and mourn my disappointments? 😓 Will you hold me when I am sad? ❔ What does "will you be my valentine?" mean to you? 💋 Give your love the gift of connection. Getting the Love You Want Feb 22-23 Register here: http://bit.ly/loveworkshop2020 #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #validation #gettingtheloveyouwant #relationshipgoals #marriagecounseling #love #relationshipworkshop #lovelanguage - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @carlsiegeldc ATTN Men: If you deny & repress feelings of grief, you’re more likely to suffer more serious long-term problems such as: 😴 Low energy 🍺 Self-medicating w/ drugs or alcohol 🙍🏻‍♂️ Low self-esteem 🛌🏻 Lack of motivation 💔 Increased conflict in relationships 🚶🏻‍♂️ More accident-prone 😖 Physical issues like headaches 🤬 Using anger or aggression to cover-up sadness + vulnerability All men grieve when they experience loss, but in order to heal, they MUST mourn. If you live in the DC-area and need to talk to someone or if this describes a man in your life please send me a DM. I’ll send back info on how to book a session or consult with me for yourself or your loved one. __________________________ #imagocenterdc #grief #malevulnerability #imagorelationshiptherapy #imagocounseling #healinginrelationships #imagodialogue #gettingtheloveyouwant #mensmentalhealth #mensgrief #depression - #regrann ...

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From the moment we are born, we know that connection is a key to survival. This most fundamental pull is within us and longingly sought everafter. ❕ As we develop, we form an understanding of what it means to be connected. For some of us it is physical, for others it is emotional. For most of us it is an unconscious perception that we carry with us into adulthood. ❔ We are connected to everyone we meet. The question is: what is the quality of that connection? ❔ How does my understanding of my need and desire for connection show up in our relationship? ❔ What do I do to indicate what I want? And is my message to you contradicting what I mean? ❕ Learn more: Getting the Love You Want, a relationship workshop for couples and pairs. http://bit.ly/loveworkshop2020 ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us Reposted from @theraiscenter One can have safety in a relationship without passion and full aliveness but you cannot have passion and full aliveness without safety.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #relationshipgoals #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshipgoal #relationshipproblems #relationshipquote #relationshiptips #relationshipsbelike #relationshipexpert #relationship #relationshipcoach #relationshipgoals❤️ #relationshipstatus #relationship101 - #regrann - #regrann ...

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Whether you are just starting out on your lifelong relationship journey, in the midst of a committed and now ho-hum pattern, or at a crisis point… you CAN recreate the spark, the passion, attraction, and intimacy that first brought you together. 💞 Join @imagocenterdc on February 22 - 23, 2020 for our Getting the Love You Want weekend workshop for couples. Click our link in bio to learn more or send me a DM. __________________________ #imagocenterdc #imagorelationshiptherapy#imagocounseling #healinginrelationships#gettingtheloveyouwant #imago #relationshipgoals#couplegoals #couplestherapy #tellmemore #marriagegoals#loveandmarriage #relationshipgoals 7 HOURS AGO ...

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“In the beginning of a relationship, you see what you want to see. You fall in love with qualities you want in partner, not necessarily qualities your partner actually has. Then, over time, you begin to realise that no, the man in front of you is not the same person you felt in love with, because the person you felt in love with was a spectre, something of your own invention. Now you're left with a real flesh-and-blood human, and he isn't perfect, and now you have to deal with that. It's a stark time. It's not easy to come to grips with these things, but you can't go your whole life pretending this man is everything you built him up to be in your mind.” ― G.R. Richards, The Long Way Home #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #validation #gettingtheloveyouwant #couplescounseling Work on it: Getting the Love You Want workshop February 22-23 metro Washington DC Register in bio. Or DM me! ...

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Reposted from @evolvetherapymn When do you know it's time to consider marriage counseling? Here are some indicators and behaviors that are signs you may need help. 💙 When you aren't talking. 💙 When you're talking, but it’s always negative. 💙 When you're afraid to talk. When it's just too frightening to even bring issues up. This can be anything from sex to money, or even annoying little habits that are being blown out of proportion. 💙 When you see your partner as an antagonist. 💙 When you keep secrets. 💙 When you contemplate (or are having) an affair. 💙 When you are financially unfaithful. 💙 When you feel everything would be OK if he would just change. 💙 When you’re living separate lives. 💙 When your sex life has shifted significantly. 💙 When you argue over the same little things over and over again. 💙 When there are ongoing relationship issues. #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealth #loveyourself #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #coupletherapy #relationships #love #expertcouplestherapy #marriagecounseling #marriagetherapy #couplestherapist #evolvetherapymn #therapy #counseling #kristenbell #daxshepard #powercouple #couplegoals @daxshepard @kristenanniebell - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @carlsiegeldc Toxic masculinity is alive and well - we see it every day in our lives and in our media. 👎🏼 Meet 3 inspiring men challenging what it means to “be a man” in this article via @washingtonpost. bit.ly/facesofmasculinity ______________________ #imagocenterdc #artofmanliness #maculinity #toxicmasculinity #washingtonpost #mensmentalhealth #imagocounseling #manliness #imagodialogue #toughenough #wapo #imago #manhood #mentaltoughness - #regrann ...

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