So often we want to hold on to love because we think that’s the way we can keep it. We want it so badly we squeeze it to death or we’re so afraid it will leave that we chase it away. But the trick is to not try so hard.
Love wants us as much as we want love, but it wants us on its own terms, when it feels like coming, in the moseying time that it feels like arriving, with the plans that it has in mind.
So let go. Let go of your hopes, your dreams, and your fears, your beliefs about the way you think love ought to have been or should now be. Let go of love as you want it so that, finally, you can take hold of love as it is.
– From A Garland of Love by Daphne Rose Kingma.