Just because you love somebody doesn’t mean you will know how to make that person feel loved. Love is a state of being, a feeling in the heart, but to generate that same feeling in the heart of another human being is a process of relationship. Unlike love, which is a gift, a relationship, the experience of being in emotional union with another person, is developed through behaviors and experiences we create on behalf and in the presence of the person about whom we feel love.
Because of this, everything you do or say, or fail to do or neglect to say, to the person you love, has in itself the capacity to deepen or lessen the quality of your bond, and in the end, to either destroy or beautifully develop your relationship.
Today remember the power your behavior has to shape the quality of your relationship.
– From A Garland of Love by Daphne Rose Kingma