In order to keep the peace and be productive when tackling big issues, couples should avoid bringing up loaded topics at bed time or right before rushing out to work or appointments. You might end up arguing all night since you are tired and less able to function with that material in the way you’d like to. Or you might go off to work feeling anxious or upset. That’s tough if you have to perform at a demanding job. Instead, ask for an appointment to discuss a particular issue, and put it in your calendar. This way, any potential volatility may be diffused and both parties will have time to prepare a response.