Take the Conscious Connection Challenge

In my experience, relationships are the most rewarding challenging thing we do. This is true of parent-child, professional, sibling, besties, and the most intimate relationship I have with my beloved. Needing that relationship to be safe enough for me to show up in all my messy authentic-ness is risky at best. What if he is not available, not aware, not comfortable when I need him? What happens when she is focused on her job, the kids, her family, herself? How can we reset the balance of the relationship to the stable connection in which we thrive, grow, and succeed between and beyond the circle of “us?” What if I were intentional about making the space between us safe and loving. What if I did this in small acts every day? For just 30 days?

#taketheconsciousconnections30daychallenge2018

What are you willing to do to make your relationship the one you both long for?

Are you willing to have a daily practice that invites you to lean in towards your relationship? The space between you is sacred. How you fill it, how you show up, how you act matters. Think about what you can incorporate into your daily routine for the next thirty (30) days.

  • Is your phone your constant companion? Then maybe you will send a daily text or make a call to consciously connect with your honey.
  • Are you a letter writer? Tucking notes into his/her bag, lunch, under the pillow might be your best practice.
  • Are you particularly an articulate speaker? A daily invitation to talk might be a perfect way for you to express yourself.
  • You may be an artist/performer. Perhaps you want to woo her/him with poetry, song, or dance.
Choose Your Relationship Today and Everyday

Take a joint 30-day challenge (one day at a time!) to consciously connect to one another. Lean into your relationship with conscious actions that support your connection. It is easier to act your self into new thinking than it is to think your self into new acting. Seize the day (and your mate)! Go beyond the 30-day challenge: Register for a workshop today!

Steps to Taking the Challenge

  • Dialogue with your partner; invite your beloved to join you
  • Choose your best method of “leaning in” (text, call, talk, write, sing, create!)
  • Refer to daily prompts on our Instagram for inspiration

OR

  • Create your own 30 days of ways to say “I love you!”

Let the Loving Begin!

Check out daily inspiration in our Instagram feed below.

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Reposted from @carlsiegeldc Was your relationship on the backburner for most of 2019? Join us for a weekend workshop with your partner where you’ll: ✅ Develop effective new communication skills ✅ Resolve conflicts with compassion and ease ✅ Experience empathy and connection with your partner Getting the Love You Want A Workshop for Couples | 📍 Now Online | Click our link in bio to learn more or send me a DM. __________________________ #imagocenterdc #empathy #tellmemore #imagorelationshiptherapy #imagocounseling #healinginrelationships #imagodialogue #gettingtheloveyouwant #imago #relationshipgoals #couplegoals - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us #lovewins @karlagudeon When we connect...love wins. . When we foregive...love wins. . When we understand each other...love wins. . When we empathize...love wins. . When we listen...love wins. . When we mirror...love wins. . #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshiptherapy #imagorelationshipworkshop #tellmemore #youmakesense #iimagineyoufeel #thankyoufortellingme #iappreciateyou #validation #couplesgoals #coupleswork #marriagegoals #couplescounseling - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us "A person looking for something does not travel very fast." E.B. White . The universe has got my attention. SLOW THE HECK DOWN! . What does that mean for me? . Working? . Exercise? . Activities? . Friends? . Family? . Partner? . Am I filling the new space between us with DOING, rather than breathing in and out and BEING.? . What do I seek today, in my most significant relationships? . Often it is not the events in our lives that bring change, but the space between the events. . Am I in the space between events, now? . How is the space between us changing the way we connect? . What I put in the space between us is what is there. When I fill it with caring, quiet, love, it is there. When I fill the space between us with joy, laughter, and sustaining foods, we are filled with what we need. When I fill the space with calm, peaceful, curiosity, we explore. When I fill the space with desire, interest, and attention, we connect. . April 18-19 Getting the Love You Want A relationship workshop for couples. Online, this weekend. Join us! bit.ly/gettingloveyouwant #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshiptherapy #imagorelationshipworkshop #tellmemore #youmakesense #iimagineyoufeel #thankyoufortellingme #iappreciateyou #validation #couplesgoals #coupleswork #marriagegoals #couplescounseling - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @l.a.imago Feeling the love from all human kind tonight. Watching heroes emerge on the front lines in hospitals, rising up to the challenge, watching people be more kind to each other and seeing the world as a collective come together to fight an invisible enemy. We may lose much during this time but we are gaining a deep connection with one another, across the world, that was not there before. Let’s let that carry us through to the end. We can do this. Xoxo - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst By nature, as humans, we want to know things. Right now, uncertainty is all around us, and that can raise #stress and make our #relationships seem even more difficult. . Harville and Helen suggest that it's OK to not know things. Why? Because then you can show CURIOSITY. Ask your friends and family how they are doing and what they are thinking. . In addition to helping you connect, you might also learn new, fun things about each other! . . . #relationshipsfirst #bettertogether #safeconversations #communication #growth #connection #communciationskills #growthmindset #communicate #communicatebetter #buildingfoundations #relationshipscience - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Take turns talking and listening. We want to tell you a story. This is how we came up with the process of Safe Conversations! We were in a fight one day, and Helen came up with the idea: "Let's take turns talking. One of us talk, and the other one listen." Taking turns has been helping us and other couples connect ever since! - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Strengthening Relationships During Coronavirus Times • Tip # 4 We reject the phrase "social distancing" because it deprives us of what we need most. We suggest the mandate you follow is "physical distancing," not social distancing, and practice "social connecting." Healthy relationships strengthen your immune system as a defense against the virus. Our message of hope is for everyone: human connection is still possible and vital. - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Strengthening Relationships During Coronavirus Times Tip # 3 • Do you ever say something to someone and feel like you just are not understood? Harville and Helen have a solution for you - Mirroring! Mirroring is one of the steps in Safe Conversations. See a demonstration of mirroring in this short video. https://youtu.be/wCHeet-KPbA - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Ask "Is now a good time?" This way, people you want to talk with will be able to focus on what you're saying instead of being distracted or in the middle of something else. If someone asks to talk, and it's not a good time, just say when is better. This will keep your conversations safe instead of rushed and stressed! - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @relationshipsfirst Hi friends! Here's a message of hope from Harville & Helen. Did you know that healthy relationships helps your immune system? - #regrann ...

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May we forever be changed by what happens next. Let us slow down, like we never have before. Give thanks like we never have before. Celebrate the smallest things like we never have before. ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us Don't tell me you don't have time to hug for a minute! If you do nothing else for your relationship, step into each other's arms, find his/her heart beat, breathe with your beloved, just hold each other in this silent sacred space. 💞 Hugging communicates love better than almost anything else. 💞 Hugging kicks in nature's attachment chemistry. At 30 seconds the brain sends a message to produce dopamine. At 40 seconds the brain releases dopamine into your bloodstream. At 60 seconds dopamine is actively flowing throughout your body. #hugmore 💞 Hug once a day, "whether you need it or not!" 💞 Hug, it feels good! #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #validation #gettingtheloveyouwant Learn more about having the relationship you dream of. Join me and my husband @dmdworkin for Getting the Love You Want. Spreading the message to do something today to connect consciously to the one you love. April 18-19. In the Nation's Capitol! Be the change you want in the world. #changinftheworldonerelationshipatatime @imagocenterdc - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @deborahfoxmsw The impact of early adverse experiences that were never resolved remain lodged within you. Even though decades have passed, the impact hasn’t disappeared into thin air because your nervous system doesn’t know the passage of time. When you feel threatened, even mildly, by your partner , your nervous system alerts and is ready to protect you. This same protective response serves as a barrier between you and your partner. You’re instantly ready to fight or to flee, neither of which leads to good communication or understanding. What to do? Stop the quarrel, take a time out and reflect on what you were feeling in the very first moments of the conflict. Allow your nervous system to settle into neutral and then talk with your partner. If this doesn’t lead to a better place, you could consider seeing a trauma-informed couples therapist. - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us End all mental and verbal criticism. Thinking it is almost as effective as saying it. Why is this? Because your brain will treat your thoughts exactly the same as it treats what you actually say, what you imagine you said, what you remember saying and what you wish you said. The brain does not distinguish between thinking it and saying it. So....your unconscious will act as if. As if you said it! You will be wholly defended as if you said it. You will be reacting as if you said it. Your energy will reflect as if you said it. What if IT was kind, loving, curious, engaging, hopeful, trusting, and positive? How would that change the #spacebetweenus? #bethechangeyouwanttosee #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #marriagegoals #zeronegativity #beingourbestselves #gettingtheloveyouwant ...

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Reposted from @youareamazing.us That sends shivers down my back, a smile to my face, a longing in my core. 🥰 Do it again. The more we snuggle, and kiss, caress and fondle, the more we want to! 😍 Will you be my valentine means will you let me know what you want? 😘 Will you tell me what you need? ☺ Will you let me be you person? 🤩 Will you be there when I am down and when I am up? 🤣 Will you laugh with me until I cry? 🤒 Will you care for me when I am a terrible patient? 😴 Will you still love me when I snore? 🥳 Will you celebrate my successes and mourn my disappointments? 😓 Will you hold me when I am sad? ❔ What does "will you be my valentine?" mean to you? 💋 Give your love the gift of connection. Getting the Love You Want Feb 22-23 Register here: http://bit.ly/loveworkshop2020 #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #tellmemore #imagodialogue #imagowisdom #couplesgoals #attachment #authenticity #spacebetween #validation #gettingtheloveyouwant #relationshipgoals #marriagecounseling #love #relationshipworkshop #lovelanguage - #regrann ...

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Reposted from @carlsiegeldc ATTN Men: If you deny & repress feelings of grief, you’re more likely to suffer more serious long-term problems such as: 😴 Low energy 🍺 Self-medicating w/ drugs or alcohol 🙍🏻‍♂️ Low self-esteem 🛌🏻 Lack of motivation 💔 Increased conflict in relationships 🚶🏻‍♂️ More accident-prone 😖 Physical issues like headaches 🤬 Using anger or aggression to cover-up sadness + vulnerability All men grieve when they experience loss, but in order to heal, they MUST mourn. If you live in the DC-area and need to talk to someone or if this describes a man in your life please send me a DM. I’ll send back info on how to book a session or consult with me for yourself or your loved one. __________________________ #imagocenterdc #grief #malevulnerability #imagorelationshiptherapy #imagocounseling #healinginrelationships #imagodialogue #gettingtheloveyouwant #mensmentalhealth #mensgrief #depression - #regrann ...

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From the moment we are born, we know that connection is a key to survival. This most fundamental pull is within us and longingly sought everafter. ❕ As we develop, we form an understanding of what it means to be connected. For some of us it is physical, for others it is emotional. For most of us it is an unconscious perception that we carry with us into adulthood. ❔ We are connected to everyone we meet. The question is: what is the quality of that connection? ❔ How does my understanding of my need and desire for connection show up in our relationship? ❔ What do I do to indicate what I want? And is my message to you contradicting what I mean? ❕ Learn more: Getting the Love You Want, a relationship workshop for couples and pairs. http://bit.ly/loveworkshop2020 ...

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