Take the Conscious Connection Challenge

In my experience, relationships are the most rewarding challenging thing we do. This is true of parent-child, professional, sibling, besties, and the most intimate relationship I have with my beloved. Needing that relationship to be safe enough for me to show up in all my messy authentic-ness is risky at best. What if he is not available, not aware, not comfortable when I need him? What happens when she is focused on her job, the kids, her family, herself? How can we reset the balance of the relationship to the stable connection in which we thrive, grow, and succeed between and beyond the circle of “us?” What if I were intentional about making the space between us safe and loving. What if I did this in small acts every day? For just 30 days?

#taketheconsciousconnections30daychallenge2018

What are you willing to do to make your relationship the one you both long for?

Are you willing to have a daily practice that invites you to lean in towards your relationship? The space between you is sacred. How you fill it, how you show up, how you act matters. Think about what you can incorporate into your daily routine for the next thirty (30) days.

  • Is your phone your constant companion? Then maybe you will send a daily text or make a call to consciously connect with your honey.
  • Are you a letter writer? Tucking notes into his/her bag, lunch, under the pillow might be your best practice.
  • Are you particularly an articulate speaker? A daily invitation to talk might be a perfect way for you to express yourself.
  • You may be an artist/performer. Perhaps you want to woo her/him with poetry, song, or dance.
Choose Your Relationship Today and Everyday

Take a joint 30-day challenge (one day at a time!) to consciously connect to one another. Lean into your relationship with conscious actions that support your connection. It is easier to act your self into new thinking than it is to think your self into new acting. Seize the day (and your mate)! Go beyond the 30-day challenge: Register for a workshop today!

Steps to Taking the Challenge

  • Dialogue with your partner; invite your beloved to join you
  • Choose your best method of “leaning in” (text, call, talk, write, sing, create!)
  • Refer to daily prompts on our Instagram for inspiration

OR

  • Create your own 30 days of ways to say “I love you!”

Let the Loving Begin!

Check out daily inspiration in our Instagram feed below.

This lively, experiential workshop will help you turn conflict into opportunities for healing and growth. You will explore some of your emotional history to understand its impact on your daily lives and gain compassion for your partner’s story. You will leave the weekend with fresh insights, new skills, energy and hope to restore the commitment and romance in your relationship. Whether you are just starting out on your lifelong relationship journey, in the midst of a committed and now ho-hum pattern, or at a crisis point… THIS WORKSHOP WILL TRANSFORM THE WAY YOU CONNECT WITH YOUR PARTNER. Experience the joy of conscious connection! What to expect at a GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT workshop: A new sense of the space between you and the quality of that connection Communication skills that will tend and nourish that space Understanding and empathy for your partner’s inner story Tools for  repairing old wounds and conflicts A way to express your joyfully alive energy A vision for the dream you share for the relationship you are meant to have. Using brief lectures, demonstrations, video, music, personal reflection,  and private conversations between partners. We create safety and privacy  for couples to share and disclose to each other About Hayley and David Hayley is a licensed professional counselor. She is passionate about helping couples, and families experience healing, connection, and joy in their relationships. She holds an M.A. in Clinical Counseling and is a certified Imago Relationship Therapist. David brings experience in international diplomacy, community development, and executive coaching, skills he has honed as the President and CEO of a major national housing organization. Based on their experience, they bring empathy and hope to couples in a marital power struggle, couples looking to regain their passion, and couples wanting their relationship to benefit from an intentional connection. Registration link in bio #imago #imagorelationship #imagorelationshipstherapy #iloveyou #consciousconnection #imagowisdom #couplesgoals ...

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