Year: 2011
You’ve probably heard plenty of times that you should “spice things up” in your relationship, or “keep things exciting” in order to keep your relationship alive. Everywhere we go, we are bombarded with the message that we need to constantly be doing things in order to have a great relationship, whether it be taking a […]
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Many of us make it to adulthood with the belief that a perfect relationship means zero conflict, and we often funnel this belief into our parenting style. But disputes are inevitable, and so we cling to the mantra, “Never fight in front of the kids.” This usually results in one of two recurring scenarios: we […]
READ ARTICLEWe’ve all heard the suggestion that a couple should never go to bed angry. It’s actually terrible advice. One of the most important relationship skills is learning to contain our reactivity in disagreements and recognize that “right now” may not be the best time to try to resolve conflict. Why is this, especially since going […]
READ ARTICLEI recently attended the ‘Getting the Love You Want’ workshop with my husband as part of my Imago Training. I was moved very deeply by the process and energized by the reinforcement of the wonderful relationship prinicples it teaches. You can read more about it at my Feminism and Relationships column here.
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Did you know that some of the best resources available to a professional career counselor are available to anyone, and for free? True. I learned of some of them firsthand during my tenure at the US Employment and Training Administration, whose charge includes the development, training, and retraining of the American workforce; and at the […]
READ ARTICLEI was recently asked to identify the key factors that make employees satisfied and engaged on the job. Two theories came to mind, and both have proved themselves true in my experience in human performance improvement in a number of organizations. One is Frederick Herzberg’s Motivation Hygiene theory (aka Two Factor theory). Good description here: […]
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As a therapist who makes her livelihood by encouraging people to explore their feelings, I’m often amazed at the variety of ways we’re taught to avoid them, often from a very young age. Growing up in my family, my mother sometimes offered me cookies when I was feeling upset. To this day, I often find […]
READ ARTICLECounseling Today just published an article I wrote about how some therapist moms and dads balance their work with busy home lives. As a part of the DCTherapistMoms group locally, I was expecting to find similar support networks for therapists around the country. While I certainly found a lot of people expressing a need for such a […]
READ ARTICLEIn this month’s Murphy’s Love advice column, the religious agendas of some in-laws-to-be are cramping a mixed-faith couple’s wedding style. We also finally answer the question, “Do I need therapy?” Read the full article here.
READ ARTICLEEmotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, integrates ancient Asian healing traditions with contemporary Western clinical psychology by combining acupressure (digital pressure applied to acupuncture points) with imaginal exposure (i.e., mental imagery) to traumatic or conflicted feelings, memories, or images. EFT derives from Thought Field Therapy, or TFT, conceived in 1979 by Roger Callahan, PhD, a clinical […]
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