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Rules of Engagement: getting along by looking for connection

Guidelines for Joining In contemporary digital interactions, explicit guidelines often accompany our participation in listservs and social platform groups. Rules of Engagement typically advocate: for maintaining focus on the…

Resolutions…no, thanks!

New Year, New Goals I am not keen on making resolutions. Not annual ones and not seasonal ones. And, my husband often says that I am one of the…

Breaking up with a friend sucks too.

I’m going through a breakup, and I am feeling all the things that go along with the end of a relationship. Anger. Confusion. Despair. Isolation. But on top of…

Navigating Holidays: Imago Style

Ah, the holidays – a wonderful time filled with traditions, warm gatherings, and the joy of reconnecting with family and friends. And while the thought of spending holidays with…

Empathic Relationships: Prioritizing Serving over Fixing and Helping

During challenging relationship times, it is essential to explore ways to enhance connection and communication.  Changing our mindset and approach away from fixing and helping can catalyze a move…

Embrace Your Crazy Teenager

This Was Me Middle school and early high school stand out in my mind as one of the most difficult times in my life. I had no idea what a…

The Importance of Military Culture in Caring for Veterans

The Hero on a Pedestal? American culture tends to either place veterans on a pedestal or pathologize them. Civilians leading care efforts for veterans do not fully understand the…

5 Things You Can Do to Create Connection

Relationship cycle Early in a relationship we feel all of the chemical flush of serotonin and dopamine that draws us together. When this begins to wear off, we slip…

Being a Couples Therapist Has Taught Me About Friendship

Friendships provide us with support, a sense of belonging, and even increased longevity. But they also require work. Friendships oftentimes take just as much emotional labor as a romantic…

Surviving or Thriving?

Survival By survival, I mean our default wiring that is always scanning the horizon for cues or signals of danger. It could be as minor as an autonomic uh-oh….

Imago on the Spectrum

Practicing what I Preach More than any other work I’ve done, being an Imago therapist means practicing what I preach. Throughout the training/certification process and beyond, Imago clinicians are…

Dream Relationship Checklist

Surviving or Thriving What if there was a checklist of things we could do to have our DREAM relationship? Dreaming, envisioning, aspiring, these are invitations to curiosity, hope, and…