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Who’s the Problem?

Can we please just stop, now? It is a familiar scene for me, when a couple shows up asking for help AND certain about who is the problem in…

Increase Intimacy in your Relationship

One dialogue, three books, one experience, and one poem – here are some different ways to engage with your embodied life and intimate connection to your partner. An intimacy…

“I flipped my  @#$%  lid!”

Emotional regulation is hard Anger is a basic human emotion and a normal adaptive response to threats. But it can be destructive to our health and relationships if we…

Should we do premarital counseling?

Wedding season has arrived! During the months of May through October, a magical event occurs: two individuals choose to embark on their lifelong journey as partners in a sacred…

Is my relationship healthy?

Relationships matter A 75-year old Harvard longitudinal study of 724 men revealed three big lessons about relationships: Social connections are really good for us, and loneliness kills. The quality…

Why Don’t I Know What I’m Feeling?

How are you feeling right now? Not sure? You’re not alone. Though it might seem almost unbelievable that some people don’t know what they’re feeling, emotion identification is actually…

Social Media and Teens, yay or nay?

Social media has ingrained itself into the daily lives of most teenagers, with 95% of 13–17-year-olds using one or more social media platforms for an average of 9 hours…

Conquering the Comparing Mind with Imago

“And so as I walk under the deep, glittering twilight, the snow crunching under my boots, deep, frozensnow, as thought I were breaking through the glass covering a hot…

Loneliness is killing us.

Social connection has healing effects In 2023, the surgeon general declared loneliness and isolation an epidemic in America. Feelings of loneliness and isolation increase our risk for physical and…

Rules of Engagement: getting along by looking for connection

Guidelines for Joining In contemporary digital interactions, explicit guidelines often accompany our participation in listservs and social platform groups. Rules of Engagement typically advocate: for maintaining focus on the…

Resolutions…no, thanks!

New Year, New Goals I am not keen on making resolutions. Not annual ones and not seasonal ones. And, my husband often says that I am one of the…

Breaking up with a friend sucks too.

I’m going through a breakup, and I am feeling all the things that go along with the end of a relationship. Anger. Confusion. Despair. Isolation. But on top of…