Category: Therapy
Stop Being Perfect and Just Be Good Enough While perfectionism breeds high performance, high achievement, innovation, and other positive adaptive traits, it comes at a cost. Perfectionism also breeds procrastination, harsh criticism, results-focused thinking, rigidity, fear of failure, and insecurity. Beneath the surface, perfectionism often stems from a deep-rooted need to feel safe, accepted, and […]
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The Impact of Recent Natural Disasters and Climate Change on Mental Health In recent years, the frequency and intensity of natural disasters have surged, with Hurricane Helene standing out as a poignant example. As the global climate crisis escalates, the destructive force of storms, wildfires, and floods has intensified, leaving behind a trail of physical, […]
READ ARTICLEIdentifying feelings can be difficult, so we’ve got tips.
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Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.
Replace New Year’s resolutions with aspirations, dreams and self-compassion.
READ ARTICLESurvival By survival, I mean our default wiring that is always scanning the horizon for cues or signals of danger. It could be as minor as an autonomic uh-oh. Or as big as hell no! We are wired for survival, as evidenced by our actual survival. Negative bias has something to do with this success. […]
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Interestingly, individuals who suffer from the symptoms of depression are often still able to function well in the world. The individual symptoms of depression, in and of themselves, may not be very different from feelings many of us frequently experience from time to time.
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Grieving a parent is complex work As infants, we rely upon our parental figures and caregivers for constant support. We seek them out for food, nourishment, love, and attention. As we grow older, we learn by exploring, expecting stability and availability from our caregivers, as we venture out in the world. Our caregivers are the […]
READ ARTICLEHow bad can it really be for you? Like many, I was aware that my alcohol consumption had been creeping up since the beginning of Covid. So I took the Dry January challenge and besides a couple of dinners out I stayed “dry” most of the month. What I discovered was I slept better, more […]
READ ARTICLEWhat stops you from finding a therapist? Some of my presenting clients (particularly couples) may not be actively “in crisis.” Others did not necessarily have self-identified therapy goals they were immediately trying to reach. Rather, imagine that everyone just had a therapist on their list of helpers, right along-side their hairstylist/barber, mechanic, or babysitter. Unfortunately, […]
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