Category: Therapy
Identifying feelings can be difficult, so we’ve got tips.
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Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.
Replace New Year’s resolutions with aspirations, dreams and self-compassion.
READ ARTICLESurvival By survival, I mean our default wiring that is always scanning the horizon for cues or signals of danger. It could be as minor as an autonomic uh-oh. Or as big as hell no! We are wired for survival, as evidenced by our actual survival. Negative bias has something to do with this success. […]
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Interestingly, individuals who suffer from the symptoms of depression are often still able to function well in the world. The individual symptoms of depression, in and of themselves, may not be very different from feelings many of us frequently experience from time to time.
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Grieving a parent is complex work As infants, we rely upon our parental figures and caregivers for constant support. We seek them out for food, nourishment, love, and attention. As we grow older, we learn by exploring, expecting stability and availability from our caregivers, as we venture out in the world. Our caregivers are the […]
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How bad can it really be for you? Like many, I was aware that my alcohol consumption had been creeping up since the beginning of Covid. So I took the Dry January challenge and besides a couple of dinners out I stayed “dry” most of the month. What I discovered was I slept better, more […]
READ ARTICLEWhat stops you from finding a therapist? Some of my presenting clients (particularly couples) may not be actively “in crisis.” Others did not necessarily have self-identified therapy goals they were immediately trying to reach. Rather, imagine that everyone just had a therapist on their list of helpers, right along-side their hairstylist/barber, mechanic, or babysitter. Unfortunately, […]
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How to weather the holidays with acts of self-care.
READ ARTICLEBrilliant Adaptations As adults, other people’s character traits trigger us in intimate relationships Take a closer look at the characteristics that precipitate our mean-spirited response with those closest to us. Meanwhile, in other settings, we display a loving, conscious, and empathetic pattern. We respond to triggers with the traits that we most need. Defense responses […]
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