Category: Couples
Love is a beautiful journey, but for many BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) couples, relationships exist within a unique landscape—one shaped by cultural expectations, generational trauma, systemic challenges, and the desire to create something strong, joyful, and lasting. Navigating love while carrying these layers can be challenging, but healing is possible. The Getting […]
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And What Does That Say About You? Think about it for a moment, and let yourself really answer the question: am I a half-full or half-empty kind of a person? The answer has a surprising amount of information about how you view life, relationships, and your ability to form secure attachments. Understanding Narrative Tone In […]
READ ARTICLEAs I settled into my office chair after an enlightening professional course on ambivalence in relationships, I found myself reflecting on the myriad of couples and individuals I’ve counseled over the years. The concept of ambivalence—a tapestry of mixed feelings and contradictory ideas about a person or situation—suddenly took on new depth and meaning. The […]
READ ARTICLERemember the term “self-actualisation?” It’s related to the idea that each person can heal, and even optimize, if they move closer to their “true self.” Popularized by Carl Roger’s Person-Centered Therapy, self actualisation is based on the belief that each of us has an underlying best, healthiest, most true version of ourselves. We are pulled […]
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Talk less! Harville Hendrix says “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” Talking, the way we try to connect, often becomes the very thing that causes distress and rupture. When we are activated, what if we pause. When in doubt do nothing. Breathe. Notice and name what you can about You. […]
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One dialogue, three books, one experience, and one poem – here are some different ways to engage with your embodied life and intimate connection to your partner. An intimacy deepening dialogue Talking about sexual intimacy can bring up all kinds of feelings for people because we have received so many different messages about sex and […]
READ ARTICLEAnger is a basic human emotion and a normal adaptive response to threats. But it can be destructive to our health and relationships if we don’t know how to manage it effectively, especially in a partnership.
READ ARTICLEHigh conflict marriages without much affection are very bad for our health. In contrast, living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective.
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Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.