Category: Imago
Not Weak. Just Human — A New Conversation About Black Men and Mental Health When we talk about mental health in America, one truth quietly lingers: Black men remain among the least likely to seek therapy. Not because they don’t feel pain — but because they’ve been taught to carry it silently. The Inherited Silence For […]
READ ARTICLEWhen Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Feel Magical Valentine’s Day is often marketed as the Super Bowl of love — red roses, candlelit dinners, matching pajamas, and picture-perfect social media posts. But what happens when February 14th doesn’t feel magical?What if it feels… disappointing, lonely, awkward — maybe even painful? Whether you’re coupled or single, Valentine’s Day tends to […]
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You’ve mirrored. You’ve validated. Now what? In the Imago Dialogue, there’s one more step that makes all the difference: empathy. Empathy is where understanding becomes connection. It’s the moment you stop standing beside your partner’s story and actually step inside it, even just for a moment, to feel what it’s like to be them. That […]
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Couples do not need to repair every conflict in three minutes to have a lasting relationship—but learning how to come back to each other, with less delay and more kindness, can transform the way love feels over time. The Myth of the 3-Minute Repair Not long ago, an Instagram post stopped me mid-scroll. It claimed […]
READ ARTICLEHow emotional awareness can shift the energy between you Ever get caught in a moment with your partner and think, I don’t even know what I’m feeling… I just know I’m upset? Or maybe you’re on the other side of it: your partner is reacting strongly, and you’re left wondering, What in the world just […]
READ ARTICLEOver the past year, there have been many meaningful—and at times painful—conversations with my daughter about how the partner she chooses will shape the life she is building. These exchanges have not been about control or fear, but about curiosity, reflection, and a deep desire to support her in becoming more conscious about love. The […]
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So many times, when things are hard in a relationship, anything you do can feel dangerous. Smiling or not smiling, replying or not replying… every decision feels like it could spark another tense moment or another rupture. And this makes sense! Harville Hendrix says, “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” […]
READ ARTICLEWhat Imago Taught Me About Real Connection For 25 years, I was married to an active alcoholic. I spent so many nights believing that if I just found the right words, used the gentle tone, picked the perfect moment, or was the most understanding partner ever—he’d finally choose us over drinking. I tried everything. It took me a long […]
READ ARTICLEWhy your differences might be the doorway to growth One of you wants to talk it out right now. The other needs time to process. One of you thrives on spontaneity. The other can’t function without a plan. Sound familiar? It’s easy in relationships to see these differences as frustrating, or even threatening. But what […]
READ ARTICLERewriting Your Story After Thanksgiving When Thanksgiving Leaves You Empty Thanksgiving can carry such a tender ache when you grew up in a family where love and secrecy lived side by side. Instead of leaving you full and grounded, the day can end with you feeling strangely hollow—like you were in the room, but not […]
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