Category: Imago
Couples do not need to repair every conflict in three minutes to have a lasting relationship—but learning how to come back to each other, with less delay and more kindness, can transform the way love feels over time. The Myth of the 3-Minute Repair Not long ago, an Instagram post stopped me mid-scroll. It claimed […]
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How emotional awareness can shift the energy between you Ever get caught in a moment with your partner and think, I don’t even know what I’m feeling… I just know I’m upset? Or maybe you’re on the other side of it: your partner is reacting strongly, and you’re left wondering, What in the world just […]
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Over the past year, there have been many meaningful—and at times painful—conversations with my daughter about how the partner she chooses will shape the life she is building. These exchanges have not been about control or fear, but about curiosity, reflection, and a deep desire to support her in becoming more conscious about love. The […]
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So many times, when things are hard in a relationship, anything you do can feel dangerous. Smiling or not smiling, replying or not replying… every decision feels like it could spark another tense moment or another rupture. And this makes sense! Harville Hendrix says, “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” […]
READ ARTICLEWhat Imago Taught Me About Real Connection For 25 years, I was married to an active alcoholic. I spent so many nights believing that if I just found the right words, used the gentle tone, picked the perfect moment, or was the most understanding partner ever—he’d finally choose us over drinking. I tried everything. It took me a long […]
READ ARTICLEWhy your differences might be the doorway to growth One of you wants to talk it out right now. The other needs time to process. One of you thrives on spontaneity. The other can’t function without a plan. Sound familiar? It’s easy in relationships to see these differences as frustrating, or even threatening. But what […]
READ ARTICLERewriting Your Story After Thanksgiving When Thanksgiving Leaves You Empty Thanksgiving can carry such a tender ache when you grew up in a family where love and secrecy lived side by side. Instead of leaving you full and grounded, the day can end with you feeling strangely hollow—like you were in the room, but not […]
READ ARTICLEWhy your partner’s perspective doesn’t have to match yours to matter In the Imago Dialogue, every conversation begins with an invitation: I’d like to invite you to come into my world. Are you available? When the receiver says yes, they’re agreeing to cross a bridge, to step away from their own familiar landscape of needs, […]
READ ARTICLEThe burdens and blessings of motherhood dance in delicate tandem—a symphony of devotion, introspection, and unconditional love, each note colored by compassion and longing. The quiet weight of maternal guilt, though gentle, is profoundly persistent. It is accompanied by the silent chorus of self-reflection: the late-night unraveling of memories, the wonderings if the paths chosen, […]
READ ARTICLEThink about it for a moment. Which feels more true to you — people will do anything for love, or people will do anything for power? How People’s Motivations Develop By the time kids are in elementary school, they realize people act for reasons beyond the obvious. A parent doesn’t ban ball games near the […]
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