Love’s Journey: A Unique Path for BIPOC Couples

Love is a beautiful journey, but for many BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) couples, relationships exist within a unique landscape—one shaped by cultural expectations, generational trauma, systemic challenges, and the desire to create something strong, joyful, and lasting. Navigating love while carrying these layers can be challenging, but healing is possible. The Getting […]

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One Couple Navigating the Relationship Cycle

Joshua sat on the park bench, watching the golden leaves drift to the ground. Beside him, Brianna gazed at the quiet lake, her fingers entwined with his. It was peaceful now, but they both knew their love had weathered storms. Love was never just a straight path—it was a cycle, a relationship journey. The Romance […]

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The Minimizer/Maximizer Dance

The Imago Dance: Understanding Relationship Dynamics Imago Theory, developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, provides a relational framework that examines how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. At the heart of this theory lies the dynamic interplay between minimizers and maximizers, creating a unique relational dance that can either lead to misunderstanding or become a […]

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The Dance of Ambivalence: Unraveling Relationship Complexities

As I settled into my office chair after an enlightening professional course on ambivalence in relationships, I found myself reflecting on the myriad of couples and individuals I’ve counseled over the years. The concept of ambivalence—a tapestry of mixed feelings and contradictory ideas about a person or situation—suddenly took on new depth and meaning. The […]

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Where you focus is where you go.

Remember the term “self-actualisation?” It’s related to the idea that each person can heal, and even optimize, if they move closer to their “true self.” Popularized by Carl Roger’s Person-Centered Therapy, self actualisation is based on the belief that each of us has an underlying best, healthiest, most true version of ourselves. We are pulled […]

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Great relationships do these 3 things daily

Talk less! Harville Hendrix says “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” Talking, the way we try to connect, often becomes the very thing that causes distress and rupture. When we are activated, what if we pause. When in doubt do nothing. Breathe. Notice and name what you can about You. […]

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Who’s the Problem?

Shift your perspective and get more connected.

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Empathic Relationships: Prioritizing Serving over Fixing and Helping

During challenging relationship times, it is essential to explore ways to enhance connection and communication.  Changing our mindset and approach away from fixing and helping can catalyze a move toward a safer place. Examining on fixing and helping offers insight into ongoing relationship struggles.  Fixing suggests something amiss, possibility in how our partner handled the […]

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5 Things You Can Do to Create Connection

Do things to be consciously connected to each other. It’s amazing how your relationship will transform.

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Being a Couples Therapist Has Taught Me About Friendship

Friendships are similar to romantic relationships, intention makes them better.

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