Category: Relationship
Couples do not need to repair every conflict in three minutes to have a lasting relationship—but learning how to come back to each other, with less delay and more kindness, can transform the way love feels over time. The Myth of the 3-Minute Repair Not long ago, an Instagram post stopped me mid-scroll. It claimed […]
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Love Begins at the Kitchen Table Culture is a set of customs, rituals, traditions, languages, values, and beliefs within a community that are shared from generation to generation. When I think about love across cultures, I don’t begin with textbooks or theories. I start at my own kitchen table. As an African American woman married […]
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How emotional awareness can shift the energy between you Ever get caught in a moment with your partner and think, I don’t even know what I’m feeling… I just know I’m upset? Or maybe you’re on the other side of it: your partner is reacting strongly, and you’re left wondering, What in the world just […]
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Over the past year, there have been many meaningful—and at times painful—conversations with my daughter about how the partner she chooses will shape the life she is building. These exchanges have not been about control or fear, but about curiosity, reflection, and a deep desire to support her in becoming more conscious about love. The […]
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So many times, when things are hard in a relationship, anything you do can feel dangerous. Smiling or not smiling, replying or not replying… every decision feels like it could spark another tense moment or another rupture. And this makes sense! Harville Hendrix says, “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” […]
READ ARTICLEWhy asking for what you need is a strength, not a weakness Have you ever found yourself feeling hurt or disappointed that your partner didn’t meet a need you never actually said out loud? You were hoping they’d notice you were struggling, offer support, reach for your hand, or say just the right thing. And […]
READ ARTICLEWhat Imago Taught Me About Real Connection For 25 years, I was married to an active alcoholic. I spent so many nights believing that if I just found the right words, used the gentle tone, picked the perfect moment, or was the most understanding partner ever—he’d finally choose us over drinking. I tried everything. It took me a long […]
READ ARTICLEWhy slowing down just for a moment can change everything Ever blurt something out and immediately wish you could hit rewind? You’re not alone. When we feel triggered, our brains switch into survival mode: we either gear up to fight (I must win this) or we shut down and disappear. And in that reactive space, […]
READ ARTICLEOne small shift that can help you come back together faster Ever find yourself stuck in a bad vibe with your partner, even after the argument is technically over? The tension hangs in the air. No one’s saying anything hurtful, but something still feels off. It’s easy in those moments to stay guarded, focused on […]
READ ARTICLEThe holiday season has a way of shining a light on our deepest longings. Twinkling lights, C music, family gatherings, matching pajamas, social media posts filled with “perfect” couples and families—this time of year can stir both joy and ache. For some, the holidays are warm and grounding. For others, they highlight loneliness, conflict, or […]
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