Love’s Journey: A Unique Path for BIPOC Couples

Love is a beautiful journey, but for many BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) couples, relationships exist within a unique landscape—one shaped by cultural expectations, generational trauma, systemic challenges, and the desire to create something strong, joyful, and lasting. Navigating love while carrying these layers can be challenging, but healing is possible. The Getting […]

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One Couple Navigating the Relationship Cycle

Joshua sat on the park bench, watching the golden leaves drift to the ground. Beside him, Brianna gazed at the quiet lake, her fingers entwined with his. It was peaceful now, but they both knew their love had weathered storms. Love was never just a straight path—it was a cycle, a relationship journey. The Romance […]

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Is Your Glass Half Full or Half Empty

And What Does That Say About You? Think about it for a moment, and let yourself really answer the question: am I a half-full or half-empty kind of a person? The answer has a surprising amount of information about how you view life, relationships, and your ability to form secure attachments. Understanding Narrative Tone In […]

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The Minimizer/Maximizer Dance

The Imago Dance: Understanding Relationship Dynamics Imago Theory, developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, provides a relational framework that examines how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. At the heart of this theory lies the dynamic interplay between minimizers and maximizers, creating a unique relational dance that can either lead to misunderstanding or become a […]

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Grieving the Loss of a Spouse

Grief Seen Through the Imago Lens The loss of a spouse is a profound journey that touches the deepest parts of our being. Through the lens of Imago therapy, we can view this experience as an opportunity for healing and growth, even amidst the pain. The loss of a partner often reawakens childhood wounds and […]

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The Dance of Ambivalence: Unraveling Relationship Complexities

As I settled into my office chair after an enlightening professional course on ambivalence in relationships, I found myself reflecting on the myriad of couples and individuals I’ve counseled over the years. The concept of ambivalence—a tapestry of mixed feelings and contradictory ideas about a person or situation—suddenly took on new depth and meaning. The […]

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What Group Therapy is Really Like

What is group therapy? Everyone’s heard of groups – AA, or cancer survivor groups, or grief support groups. Most of us have even had a loved one attend a group like that. Or maybe we encouraged a friend or family member to attend. Joining a group ourselves is a different proposition, though, right? All sorts […]

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A year in the mirror

We are at the time of the year when we review and make commitments for the next year. Taking an inventory of what you have and what you need has merit. And is often a short lived aspirational thought. Ah January! Looking back and looking forward, the very heart of the meaning of Janus: the […]

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Where you focus is where you go.

Remember the term “self-actualisation?” It’s related to the idea that each person can heal, and even optimize, if they move closer to their “true self.” Popularized by Carl Roger’s Person-Centered Therapy, self actualisation is based on the belief that each of us has an underlying best, healthiest, most true version of ourselves. We are pulled […]

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Great relationships do these 3 things daily

Talk less! Harville Hendrix says “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” Talking, the way we try to connect, often becomes the very thing that causes distress and rupture. When we are activated, what if we pause. When in doubt do nothing. Breathe. Notice and name what you can about You. […]

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