What Group Therapy is Really Like

What is group therapy? Everyone’s heard of groups – AA, or cancer survivor groups, or grief support groups. Most of us have even had a loved one attend a group like that. Or maybe we encouraged a friend or family member to attend. Joining a group ourselves is a different proposition, though, right? All sorts […]

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A year in the mirror

We are at the time of the year when we review and make commitments for the next year. Taking an inventory of what you have and what you need has merit. And is often a short lived aspirational thought. Ah January! Looking back and looking forward, the very heart of the meaning of Janus: the […]

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Where you focus is where you go.

Remember the term “self-actualisation?” It’s related to the idea that each person can heal, and even optimize, if they move closer to their “true self.” Popularized by Carl Roger’s Person-Centered Therapy, self actualisation is based on the belief that each of us has an underlying best, healthiest, most true version of ourselves. We are pulled […]

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Great relationships do these 3 things daily

Talk less! Harville Hendrix says “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” Talking, the way we try to connect, often becomes the very thing that causes distress and rupture. When we are activated, what if we pause. When in doubt do nothing. Breathe. Notice and name what you can about You. […]

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Who’s the Problem?

Shift your perspective and get more connected.

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Increase Intimacy in your Relationship

One dialogue, three books, one experience, and one poem – here are some different ways to engage with your embodied life and intimate connection to your partner. An intimacy deepening dialogue Talking about sexual intimacy can bring up all kinds of feelings for people because we have received so many different messages about sex and […]

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“I flipped my  @#$%  lid!”

Anger is a basic human emotion and a normal adaptive response to threats. But it can be destructive to our health and relationships if we don’t know how to manage it effectively, especially in a partnership.

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Should we do premarital counseling?

The skills developed in pre-marital counseling lay the groundwork for a stronger emotional connection and deeper intimacy that will sustain the marriage long after the honeymoon ends.

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Is my relationship healthy?

High conflict marriages without much affection are very bad for our health. In contrast, living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective. 

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Conquering the Comparing Mind with Imago

Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.

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