Category: Relationship
In a session I had recently with a couple, a husband told his wife that he wants to help her find peace when she is “off the rails.” He does this by problem-solving and suggesting different ways of looking at the situation. They both agreed that this almost never works, but only escalates her anger […]
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How Are You? Good enough! The first memorable time I heard that phrase was when my supervisor responded to my query “How are you?” I was surprised, delighted, and curious when he said, “Good enough!” with a delightful upward lilt and a chuckle. What does it mean to be good enough? Is it “okay” to […]
READ ARTICLEHall of Famers At Bat John Gottman’s research tells us that 67%* of the differences between partners are unresolvable and THIS is the good news. Recently I was talking shop with my brother, whose field of work is vastly different than my own. I mentioned this fact to him and his immediate, and absolutely fabulous […]
READ ARTICLEBoundaries are the root of self-care and are necessary for creating a healthy life. They are limits we create for ourselves to have the life we want and deserve as unique human beings. They are not the rules and limits that we have internalized from our childhood or by comparison with others. It’s a tricky […]
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The beginning of the new year is a fascinating time. It’s an invitation to begin again as if embarking on a new journey with a fresh start to (re)create, (re)construct, and (re)adjust your paradigm for the year ahead. After two years of disorientation with great losses and major transitions, significant life changes propels you to […]
READ ARTICLEAs we looked back on the last year, my husband said, “we have had an amazing year, despite all of the hard things that have happened.” I looked at him blankly and said “I heard you say that we have had an amazing year, despite the hard things. And I just can’t feel the amazing […]
READ ARTICLEAlbert Einstein said: “In the midst of every crisis, lies great opportunity.” If handled well, a crisis can shake up the status quo, so that new resources and new ways of being emerge. We see clearly how this is true in business. The pandemic crisis caused the suffering of some businesses, like brick-and-mortar retail, health […]
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“The dreams that you have while you are asleep can provide a fascinating, revealing, and interesting window into your unconscious mind. How much do you share and talk about your dreams with your partner? How much do you know about your own and your partner’s inner world? How much does each one of you know […]
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I Am a Proponent of Connection I have always been more of an observer than a talker, yet I have been having some difficult conversations lately on the topic of COVID-19 and vaccinations, with the people I care about, because I need my relationships now more than ever with friends, family, and colleagues. If I […]
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Though they might use different words to express it, philosophers, religious figures, and psychologists appear to agree that the perfect is the enemy of the good–that unrealistic expectations are the bane of true satisfaction. The following four myths of marriage serve as examples of ways in which our desire for perfection diminishes our chance for […]
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