Embrace Your Crazy Teenager

No matter the circumstances, we cannot keep the madness of the world today out of our teenagers’ lives. The best we can do is help them become strong, confident, and resilient.

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Welcoming a New Baby, a Multi-Generational Perspective

A grandmother’s thoughts: A Leap of Faith My daughter, Alison and her husband, Tom, just had a baby girl. She was born a month premature and is now about 10 weeks old. They live across the country from me and my husband, so I decided that we should relocate for two months to be close […]

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New Relationship Resolutions for 2023

Start Right , Stay Connected The beginning of the New Year is a good time to think about goals for the year ahead. We canset goals anytime, but these built-in dates on our calendar are helpful. Just as Thanksgiving is atime to focus on gratitude, New Year is a good time to focus on changes […]

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Grief is a Journey of Self Discovery

Getting help with grief never occurred to me My father died by accidental drowning six months before my wedding. The idea of seeking counseling or attending a grief group was never suggested. I couldn’t process the loss at the time, or what it meant for my mother. I was 28 years old, absorbed in my […]

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The Key to a Happy Adulthood

Connectedness in Childhood “More than any single factor that we can control, connectedness in childhood is the key to a happy adulthood” says Edward Hallowell in “The Childhood Roots to Adult Happiness”.  He cites a comprehensive study in the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, Journal of the American Medical Association, 1997.  This study, on […]

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Get Unstuck: Letting Go of Childhood Memories

In a session I had recently with a couple, a husband told his wife that he wants to help her find peace when she is “off the rails.” He does this by problem-solving and suggesting different ways of looking at the situation.  They both agreed that this almost never works, but only escalates her anger […]

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What are Healthy Boundaries and How Can I Get Them?

Boundaries are the root of self-care and are necessary for creating a healthy life. They are limits we create for ourselves to have the life we want and deserve as unique human beings.  They are not the rules and limits that we have internalized from our childhood or by comparison with others.  It’s a tricky […]

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After the Affair: From Despair to Discovery

Albert Einstein said: “In the midst of every crisis, lies great opportunity.”  If handled well, a crisis can shake up the status quo, so that new resources and new ways of being emerge.  We see clearly how this is true in business. The pandemic crisis caused the suffering of some businesses, like brick-and-mortar retail, health […]

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The Problem with Punishment

Breaking the Cycle of Punishment and Fear: Teaching Children to Problem Solve There are two big problems with punishing children.  First, it is a bad model for problem-solving.  It does not actually teach a person anything, and most likely instills fear and resentment.  The purpose of punishment is to control someone’s behavior.  When we use […]

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5 Keys for Surviving Isolation With Your Teen

2020 has been a challenging year for all of us, but I have particular sympathy for teens and their parents. I remember very well when my three kids were teenagers, and I can’t imagine having them all in the house with us 24/7 for ten months.  We all thrived due to the physical separation that […]

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