Perfect or Good Enough?

Stop Being Perfect and Just Be Good Enough While perfectionism breeds high performance, high achievement, innovation, and other positive adaptive traits, it comes at a cost. Perfectionism also breeds procrastination, harsh criticism, results-focused thinking, rigidity, fear of failure, and insecurity. Beneath the surface, perfectionism often stems from a deep-rooted need to feel safe, accepted, and […]

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Why Don’t I Know What I’m Feeling?

Identifying feelings can be difficult, so we’ve got tips.

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Navigating Holidays: Imago Style

Ah, the holidays – a wonderful time filled with traditions, warm gatherings, and the joy of reconnecting with family and friends. And while the thought of spending holidays with our own families can trigger mixed feelings of stress and excitement, the anticipation of spending holidays with our partner’s family can stir up a whole range […]

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Being a Couples Therapist Has Taught Me About Friendship

Friendships are similar to romantic relationships, intention makes them better.

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Waiting for the other relationship shoe to drop

Last week, I caught up with my college best friend, who I hadn’t spoken with in a few months. During our phone call, she was telling me about her new partner, a woman she began dating earlier this year. My friend described their relationship as “uncomplicated” and “low drama,” with their biggest disagreements to date […]

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5 Lessons from a Recovering People Pleaser

Mind Your Party Manners I grew up hearing the reminder to remember my “party manners” every time I left the house, even when I joined the soccer practice carpool. My politeness and concern for how others perceived my behaviors is a marker of my Midwestern upbringing. The phrase “Minnesota Nice” is more than a little […]

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