Choose Today: Shame and Fear or Authenticity and Intimacy?

In the early years of our marriage, my husband Jason and I used to get stuck frequently in the same frustrating interaction. “We need to talk about our relationship” I would announce to him out of the blue, with urgency and anxiousness in my voice. “I’m feeling disconnected.” How do you imagine he would respond? […]

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Imago Relationship Tips: Repairing Ruptures

Have you ever experienced a rupture in your relationship that was intense and painful?

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Stop Phubbing Your Partner! Are Cell Phones Getting in the Way of Your Relationship? Not so very long ago I remember observing couples at restaurants spending more time looking at their cell phones than engaging each other and thinking how awful that was! Of course, not too long after that to my horror, I realized […]

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We Need Mindful Relationships

You may be familiar with the healing properties of practicing mindfulness. Thirty years of research has shown that it increases our ability to relax, reduces pain, increases energy, improves self-esteem and helps us cope more effectively with stress. But how often do we practice mindfulness in our relationships? Mindfulness is giving full attention to the […]

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Imago Relationship Tips: Relationship Ruptures

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Is Your Relationship “Woke”?

I met with a couple recently who spent the greater part of their session dialoguing about a topic they considered trivial. “Wow, I can’t believe we spent all that time talking about that…” she expressed. However, the structure of the Imago Relationship Dialogue they utilized had revealed several underlying emotions and hurts as well as […]

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Imago Relationship Tips: Transition Time

Have you ever walked from one room to another to get a pair of scissors and when you get there forgotten what you were looking for then you walk back into the original room and the memory comes back to you? Well you’re not alone, almost all human beings struggle when transitioning from one thing […]

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The Science Behind Infidelity

Helen Fisher’s 10 Facts About Infidelity If you aren’t familiar with Helen Fisher’s work and you are in a committed relationship, you should be! Committed relationships are hard work and various forms of infidelity are occasionally reported in my practice with both individuals and couples. As a guest author, Helen Fisher, the biological anthropologist who […]

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Imago Relationship Tips: Boundaries and Self Respect

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Want to Give A Little Advice? Don’t Do It! (or not until you have read this first)

Giving advice to someone who may be struggling, or stuck in that maelstrom of an unresolved situation, comes naturally, and often unconsciously for many of us. Before you know it, out pops your opinion and well-intentioned, ‘just do_____’. Sometimes we even follow up with our analysis of why our advice is really good, thorough and […]

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