Should everyone have a therapist? Yes!

What stops you from finding a therapist? Some of my presenting clients (particularly couples) may not be actively “in crisis.” Others did not necessarily have self-identified therapy goals they were immediately trying to reach. Rather, imagine that everyone just had a therapist on their list of helpers, right along-side their hairstylist/barber, mechanic, or babysitter. Unfortunately, […]

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How to Be a Vulnerable Partner and Share Intimate Connection

Reality shows and Relationships I love watching reality dating shows.  Especially the more immersive, experiential ones (nod to OWN’s Ready to Love and Put a Ring on It, Lifetime’s Married at First Sight (MAFS) and 90-Day Fiancé, and Netflix’s Love is Blind, just to name a few). And kudos to the on-screen licensed therapists, relationship coaches, and […]

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How well do you (want to) know your partner?*

“The dreams that you have while you are asleep can provide a fascinating, revealing, and interesting window into your unconscious mind.  How much do you share and talk about your dreams with your partner? How much do you know about your own and your partner’s inner world? How much does each one of you know […]

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To Differentiate or Not To, that is the question.

“What do you want to do?” or “Sure honey, but what do you think about it?” Have you ever tried to encourage a friend by reminding them of all the great ideas or qualities they have, just to have each of your reasonable suggestions or compliments met with all the ways their current love-interest has convinced them otherwise? Somehow the […]

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Relationship Exits

I had the pleasure of attending a Getting the Love You Want Workshop recently.  This workshop is built on Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt’s book by the same title, and is designed to help couples reconnect and to resolve conflict successfully.  The workshop facilitators guided couples through several exercises and experiences, either educational or […]

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Is Your Relationship “Woke”?

I met with a couple recently who spent the greater part of their session dialoguing about a topic they considered trivial. “Wow, I can’t believe we spent all that time talking about that…” she expressed. However, the structure of the Imago Relationship Dialogue they utilized had revealed several underlying emotions and hurts as well as […]

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