Understanding Reality Brings Peace of Mind and Strengthens Relationships

Imagine you hear a loud thud coming from outside. What thoughts come to mind? Maybe “That’s concerning…” or “Oh, they were doing road work nearby today…” or “That’s that package I ordered…” Any of those might fit with what has really happened; any one may well be reality. Or none of those might fit. What […]

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Getting the Love You Want Might Mean Learning a New Language

I speak three languages — French, English, and Spanish — and I can tell you from experience: understanding the words doesn’t mean you fully understand the culture. You can know how to order un café con leche in Spanish and still feel totally out of place at a family table in Barcelona. You can understand […]

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The Ripple Effect of Love: Imago Therapy Transforms Families

Imago Therapy is Not Just for Couples “Mom, are you being nice or are you being mean? I’m trying to be nice, so you need to try too.” — A precocious little girl in a viral moment of emotional wisdom We often say that children live in the space between their parents—not just physically, but […]

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What a Toothpaste Tube Can Teach Us About Love

The Transformative Power of Imago Therapy It’s Not About the Toothpaste In relationships, it’s rarely about the toothpaste. It’s about what the toothpaste represents—what lives beneath the surface of our irritation, what old stories are being unconsciously activated, and how deeply we long to feel understood. Jayne Gumpel, a gifted North American Imago therapist and […]

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How Connection Fuels Us – And Helps Our Communities

You may have read headlines about how loneliness is a health threat. Or you’ve heard how cultivating community is the thing that helps individuals stay strong against oppression and adverse circumstances.  Connection Makes Everything Seem Brighter One fascinating finding from neuroscience is that when people report having supportive relationships, their cognitive and physiological load is […]

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We Expect To See What We Have Seen Before

My Imago Starting from early childhood, each of us is watching the world around us. Children are always watching, picking up images that will stay with them for the rest of their lives. The term “imago” comes from Latin for “image” and refers to an unconscious, idealized picture of familiar love that develops during childhood […]

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Love’s Journey: A Unique Path for BIPOC Couples

Love is a beautiful journey, but for many BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) couples, relationships exist within a unique landscape—one shaped by cultural expectations, generational trauma, systemic challenges, and the desire to create something strong, joyful, and lasting. Navigating love while carrying these layers can be challenging, but healing is possible. The Getting […]

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One Couple Navigating the Relationship Cycle

Joshua sat on the park bench, watching the golden leaves drift to the ground. Beside him, Brianna gazed at the quiet lake, her fingers entwined with his. It was peaceful now, but they both knew their love had weathered storms. Love was never just a straight path—it was a cycle, a relationship journey. The Romance […]

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Is Your Glass Half Full or Half Empty

And What Does That Say About You? Think about it for a moment, and let yourself really answer the question: am I a half-full or half-empty kind of a person? The answer has a surprising amount of information about how you view life, relationships, and your ability to form secure attachments. Understanding Narrative Tone In […]

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I Have Big Emotions About Politics

What Do I Do Next? Political transitions can be emotionally challenging. It is a time when many things change, and this year more than ever before, people have been expecting to see big changes in how our government functions. Each of us are having our own unique psychological responses to the heightened uncertainty and anticipation. […]

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