When Love Meets Money: Financial Conflict in Couples Therapy—Live
Working with the Hidden Emotional Life of Financial Conflict
Presented by Michelle Bohls, LMFT
In this experiential two-hour training, Michelle Bohls will guide therapists in exploring what lies beneath financial conflict: the beliefs and money narratives each partner carries, the early experiences that shaped them, and the protective strategies that develop around safety, worth, trust, autonomy, and love.
Drawing on research related to financial socialization, money beliefs, relational patterns, and couple conflict, participants will explore how early experiences and messages about money shape each partner’s beliefs, emotional responses, and defensive patterns. These dynamics can contribute to reactivity, withdrawal, polarization, and recurring conflict between partners.
Through clinical reflection, experiential exercises, and structured relational dialogue, participants will practice questions and sentence stems that help partners identify money-related beliefs, emotions, needs, and defensive patterns. These interventions can help therapists move beyond the surface content of financial disagreements and support greater understanding, emotional safety, and collaborative problem-solving.
Teachings are appropriate for healthcare professionals as well as the general public. Healthcare professionals will be able to incorporate the tools and practices offered in this program in ways beneficial to clients or patients.
Participants will leave with:
- A clearer framework for understanding the emotional roots of financial conflict
- Practical sentence stems for helping partners explore money-related beliefs, emotions, and needs
- An experiential understanding of how Imago Dialogue can deepen conversations about money
- Clinical language and tools that can be used with couples immediately
Learning Objectives
By the end of the program, participants will be able to:
- Identify how unconscious money beliefs and defenses contribute to recurring financial conflict between partners.
- Apply Imago-based sentence stems to help partners explore money-related beliefs, emotions, and needs.
- Explain how unmet needs and early messages about money can shape reactivity, withdrawal, and conflict between partners.
