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There’s no denying it — Thanksgiving is here. “Black Friday” deals have been advertised for the last week, grocery stores are crowded and picked over, and therapists write about the many benefits of gratitude. Some of us are excited, making holiday plans and looking forward to the coming season. Others of us have a sinking […]
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The title of Byron Katie’s book, Loving What Is, speaks for itself. Instead of wanting what is not, we can learn to accept and even love what is, which Byron Katie calls reality. It is human nature to want more. We think more is better and that more will fulfill us and make us feel […]
READ ARTICLEOurs is a culture of striving. Our conditioning is to try to accomplish more and to be more efficient, controlled, smart, spiritual, or _______ [fill in the blank]. We should be better professionals, friends, partners, parents, or have better stuff, jobs, friends, partners, or bosses. We should even need to be more grateful! More is […]
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“The greatest thing is to give thanks for everything. He who has learned this knows what it means to live. He has penetrated the whole mystery of life: giving thanks for everything.” – Albert Schweitzer. Great wisdom, but as it turns out “penetrating the mystery of life” is easier said than done, especially when our brains instinctively […]
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Giving thanks can be a complicated process. We often don’t appreciate what we have until we lose it. Loss opens our eyes to what we truly value and whom we truly depend on. Growing up Thanksgiving was filled with noisy children, warm moments and the good scents coming from my mother’s kitchen, a superb cook. […]
READ ARTICLEThis week I was lucky to be quoted in the WashingtonPost.com “On Parenting” blog, written and curated by Janice D’Arcy. We spoke about the challenges new parents face when trying to make thoughtful decisions about long-held family traditions. It was fun to have the chance to really think through the ways that therapy – Imago […]
READ ARTICLEAs the Thanksgiving holiday approaches, many of us begin thinking about the things in our lives which inspire thankfulness. A growing body of research suggests that we’d be wise to make this a daily habit — regularly focusing on and appreciating the positive is related to a higher level of psychological well-being. Linda Wasmer Andrews […]
READ ARTICLEI was recently listening to couples expert, John Gottman talk about the four fatal behaviors that, if all are present, can predict divorce. He calls these the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. The negative behaviors are criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling (silence and/or avoidance), and contempt. What is contempt? It is total disregard for the other, disdain, scorn, […]
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My latest blog for Pamela’s Punch is some more relationship advice called 10 Signs That You May Be Dating the Wrong Person. This blog specifically discusses how to discern whether or not you are with the right person and how to break unhealthy relationship patterns that you keep repeating.
READ ARTICLEI recently read an article on CNN called ‘Narcissists want weddings, not marriage.’ The article discusses the hoopla around the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries marriage (and now impending divorce) and how it relates to narcissism. Since Kim Kardashian’s announcement of a divorce after 72 days of marriage, I have read plenty of articles and blog posts […]
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