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The explosion in neuroscience over the past 20 years has revealed, among many things, that the human brain has a built-in bias toward the negative. In the world of evolutionary psychology this makes a great deal of sense. If we don’t stay alive, other biological imperatives like “Where’s the food?” and “Where’s the sex?” are […]
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As a couples therapist specializing in parenting issues, I often see parents who disagree about how to raise their children. Most often, these disagreements revolve around how they should discipline their children. What is too much, too little, or too harsh? One parent might feel that the child is taking advantage of them, while the […]
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Paradoxically, while we may be more connected online, many of us are becoming less connected offline. How often do we see couples at a restaurant looking more at their cell phones than at each other. Think about kids (and parents!) on their cell phones at the dinner table! To battle this phenomenon, I give you: […]
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A client sat across from me in my office sobbing. “I feel so lonely” she finally said after she collected herself. This particular woman has a lot of friends and a successful career- how could someone as bright and friendly as her feel lonely? This woman is not alone – the feelings of social isolation […]
READ ARTICLEWe know how the story goes: Boy meets girl, they fall in love. They get the house, the dog, the white picket fence, and plan to raise a family together. They all live happily ever after! But how often does the American Dream turn out the way Hollywood describes it? Raising any child brings along […]
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The Imago Center’s Lena Derhally was interviewed for Psych Central about myths about healthy marriages that most people think are true. There are many myths about what a healthy marriage looks and feels like. When we start seeing these myths as facts, we get into problematic territory. Many myths create unrealistic standards, which when we […]
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This month, medical and mental health experts on the United States Preventive Services Task Force, a government-appointed health panel, emphasized the importance of screening women for depression both during pregnancy and after giving birth. After having a baby, most women experience some form of the “baby blues,” the normal hormonal adjustment period that usually resolves […]
READ ARTICLELena Derhally was interviewed by Margarita Tartakovsky at Psych Central on tips to make saying No a lot easier. She gives us three tips to set boundaries, “If we learn to say ‘no,’ put our foot down and not let people take advantage of us, then we feel less resentful — to others and ourselves.” Lena […]
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Recently, a wife of a man in one of my men’s group said, “Dr Siegel did you sprinkle pixie dust on my husband? He’s changed!” For most of my 25 years as a psychologist I have worked with men in group therapy because it is such a powerful therapeutic approach for men. Why is this? […]
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In a recent article about changes in relationship By Sara Polanchek and Sidney Shaw (Counseling Today, December 2015 – Ten intimate relationship research findings every counselor should know) I was slightly surprised by some statistics. For example, cohabitation before marriage was reported as 60% today as compared to 5% in 1960. Perhaps most surprising was the […]
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