The holiday season has a way of shining a light on our deepest longings.
Twinkling lights, C music, family gatherings, matching pajamas, social media posts filled with “perfect” couples and families—this time of year can stir both joy and ache. For some, the holidays are warm and grounding. For others, they highlight loneliness, conflict, or the quiet grief of relationships that didn’t turn out the way we hoped.
In that tension, the holidays offer a sacred invitation:
Not just to give and receive gifts, but to look honestly at how we love—and how we want to love differently.
That’s where Keeping the Love You Find comes in.
This work is not about scrambling to “fix” yourself before the New Year or rushing to find a partner before the ball drops. It’s about gently turning toward your story with compassion and asking:
- Why do I choose the partners I choose?
- Why do certain patterns keep repeating?
- What would it look like to love from a place of wholeness instead of old wounds?
Holiday Imago: the Story You Carry About Love
Imago Relationship Therapy teaches that we are drawn to partners who resemble the emotional climate of our early caregivers. We don’t do this on purpose—it’s an unconscious attempt to re-write old stories and finally get the love we needed.
That’s why the holidays can feel so loaded.
Winter Holidays often pull us back into family systems where those early patterns began:
- The child who had to be “the good one” may now be the adult holding everything together, silently resentful.
- The one who learned to stay quiet to keep the peace may now feel invisible in their own relationships.
- The child who grew up around chaos may find themselves attracted to intensity and drama, calling it “chemistry.”
Holiday memories—both beautiful and painful—have shaped the way you experience intimacy, safety, and belonging. Keeping the Love You Find helps you lovingly unpack those memories so they no longer run your relationships from the shadows.
A Season to Reclaim Your Lost Parts
At the heart of this work is the process of reclaiming the parts of yourself you had to hide to survive.
Imago teaches that we carry:
- Lost Parts – Pieces of you that were shamed, silenced, or ignored
- Protective Parts – The armor you learned to wear (perfectionism, withdrawal, over-functioning, numbing)
- Unmet Needs – The longings for being seen, soothed, safe, and valued
The holidays often reactivate all of these. You might feel yourself slipping into old roles at the dinner table or shrinking in spaces where your adult self longs to stand tall. Instead of judging yourself, this season can become a doorway into deeper awareness:
- What part of me is activated right now?
- What is this feeling trying to tell me I need?
- How can I show up differently for myself this year?
In Keeping the Love You Find, participants explore these questions through guided reflection, gentle exercises, and Imago-based tools that honor both the pain and the resilience in their stories.
A Different Kind of Holiday Gift: Becoming the One
The Holiday Season is, at its heart, a story of hope entering the world most suddenly.
In that same spirit, this work invites a different kind of miracle:
Instead of waiting to be chosen, you begin to choose yourself—with tenderness, clarity, and courage.
As you heal, you:
- Stop chasing people who cannot meet you
- Learn to communicate needs without begging, blaming, or shrinking
- Set boundaries that protect your peace
- Open your heart without abandoning yourself
You become a magnet for healthier love—not because you’ve learned tricks or strategies, but because you’re living from a more integrated, grounded, and authentic self.
Let This Holiday Be a Turning Point
This Holiday Season, rather than only focusing on what’s under the tree, consider what’s happening inside your heart.
- What story about love are you ready to release?
- What new story are you ready to write?
- What would it mean to give yourself the gift of healing your patterns, not just your symptoms?
Keeping the Love You Find is an invitation to step into the New Year with more clarity, courage, and compassion—for yourself and for every relationship you touch.
You are not here to repeat the same cycles.
You are here to rewrite your relationship story—and this season is a beautiful time to begin.
Keeping the Love You Find
Whether you are single, dating again after heartbreak, or exploring your own relational patterns, this experience offers:
- Clarity about why you love the way you do
- Insight into what keeps you stuck
- Tools to interrupt unhealthy cycles
- Practices to build self-trust and emotional maturity
- A supportive environment for deep healing and transformation
You are not here to repeat your past.
You are here to rewrite it with consciousness, courage, and compassion.
And when you begin that journey?
That’s when you truly keep the love you find.