Start Right , Stay Connected The beginning of the New Year is a good time to think about goals for the year ahead. We canset goals anytime, but these built-in dates on our calendar are helpful. Just as Thanksgiving...
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Getting help with grief never occurred to me My father died by accidental drowning six months before my wedding. The idea of seeking counseling or attending a grief group was never suggested. I couldn’t process the loss at the...
Connectedness in Childhood “More than any single factor that we can control, connectedness in childhood is the key to a happy adulthood” says Edward Hallowell in “The Childhood Roots to Adult Happiness”. He cites a comprehensive study in the...
In a session I had recently with a couple, a husband told his wife that he wants to help her find peace when she is “off the rails.” He does this by problem-solving and suggesting different ways of looking...
Boundaries are the root of self-care and are necessary for creating a healthy life. They are limits we create for ourselves to have the life we want and deserve as unique human beings. They are not the rules and...
Albert Einstein said: “In the midst of every crisis, lies great opportunity.” If handled well, a crisis can shake up the status quo, so that new resources and new ways of being emerge. We see clearly how this is...
Breaking the Cycle of Punishment and Fear: Teaching Children to Problem Solve There are two big problems with punishing children. First, it is a bad model for problem-solving. It does not actually teach a person anything, and most likely...
2020 has been a challenging year for all of us, but I have particular sympathy for teens and their parents. I remember very well when my three kids were teenagers, and I can’t imagine having them all in the...
We are in the worst time of this pandemic, and the holidays are upon us. It may be a tough time for some of us to feel grateful, and it can also be a time when we find gratitude...
Yom Kippur in the Jewish religion, is a day of mourning and reflection, of taking responsibility for the role we may have played in the pain of others. While Yom Kippur is always a somber day in the Jewish...