You've probably heard the relationship advice, "You can be right, or you can be together." Often when we get into conflict with our partners, we hold on with every ounce of our being to the conviction that we are right...and surrendering that assumption may feel like capitulation in the heat of an argument.
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The Psychotherapy Networker magazine this month focuses on The Mindfulness Movement currently afoot in our culture. Because my own spiritual disciplines include meditations of various sorts, I value the transformational qualities of these kinds of practices. Some of my clients do, too, and part of our work centers around how their practices of silence and mindfulness impact their therapeutic progress.  Read more »

 At some point in the early days of our marriage (it was 43 years this summer) my husband and I started writing down 5-year plans. We’d go out to dinner with the purpose of brainstorming and we’d have fun putting our heads together to envision our lives together. We’d write down stuff like buying a house, changing jobs, having another child, landscaping the yard, traveling, getting a dog, and the like. I loved that we did this and always took pride in our purposefulness and focus.  Read more »

I found an interesting bit of background information on the term Imago and how it evolved in the psychoanalytic community over the years. It may be TMI, but for those curious about it, have at it.  www.enotes.com/psychoanalysis-encyclopedia/imago  

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After sixteen years together, my partner Chuck and I were married in February in a private ceremony. Just last week we hosted a public celebration of our marriage with friends. Although we thanked our guests for coming we realized afterward that we neglected to tell them how important they are to us and how truly grateful we are for their presence in our lives. So we sent them the following message:
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