Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
Only a few states grant gay couples the right to marry and in states that do so many gay couples have rushed to exercise that right. My partner of sixteen years and I tied the knot soon after marriage became legal here in D.C. in 2010. Early in our relationship it felt risky for me to claim him as my “partner.” Now I’m trying to get comfortable with calling him “husband.” Read more »
I recently read an article on CNN called 'Narcissists want weddings, not marriage.' The article discusses the hoopla around the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries marriage (and now impending divorce) and how it relates to narcissism. Since Kim Kardashian's announcement of a divorce after 72 days of marriage, I have read plenty of articles and blog posts on narcissism and weddings. Read more »
I was recently inspired by Dr. Barton Goldsmith's, '10 Tips to Help You Pick a Good Partner' featured on Psychology Today. As a compliment to his tips, I wrote my own version called '10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner..' I hope you will find it informative and insightful!
At some point in the early days of our marriage (it was 43 years this summer) my husband and I started writing down 5-year plans. We’d go out to dinner with the purpose of brainstorming and we’d have fun putting our heads together to envision our lives together. We’d write down stuff like buying a house, changing jobs, having another child, landscaping the yard, traveling, getting a dog, and the like. I loved that we did this and always took pride in our purposefulness and focus. Read more »
The National Marriage Project of the University of Virginia examined demographic data and issued a report that concluded that U.S. economic growth depends upon healthy marriages and stable families. The report entitled, The Sustainable Demographic Dividend, says that when people marry and have families several sectors of the economy are affected such as health care, household supplies and services, personal and life insurance, child care, among others. So companies like Proctor and Gamble, Target and Home Depot are negatively impacted when fertility rates are down. Read more »
I read this interesting article today about how Hollywood's preoccupation with reconciliation stories may be impacting kids' expectations about separation/divorce. My favorite line might be this one:
"...Hollywood has always been interested in extreme and unlikely tales. Happy marriages are almost as uncommon in movies as rational divorces." Read more »
In this month's Georgetowner column I address the very human act of judging another person's relationship choices. We all think we know best, but it's a rare event when that kind of verdict is both neutral and welcome. Read the full article here.