A New Year, a New Decade, A New Me

5 Steps to guide you in leaving the past behind and moving toward your future We all say goodbye many times throughout our lives. We say goodbye to friends, family, homes, jobs, businesses, lovers, and relationships. We also say goodbye to periods of our lives. On the precipice of saying goodbye to the 2010’s and […]

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Why go to couples therapy if you already have a great relationship?

If like me, you were raised to believe that therapy meant something was wrong with you, you are not alone. I have come to learn by personal experience and witnessing others’ experiences that therapy can be both a path to transformation and a path to learning skills and tools to maintain healthy minds, emotions, and […]

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Can We Talk About Sex?

Is there a pattern here? “When was the last time you two had sex and was it satisfying?” Couples coming to me for the first time will be asked this question. I usually tell them that some therapists say that “if you fix the sex, the rest will follow,” and others say: “if you fix […]

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Fight Fair

Having a consciously connected relationship means it is okay to disagree, it is possible to fight fairly, and our differences are welcomed.

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Discharging Your Loyal Soldier

Together we had to learn new, more loving and conscious ways to respond to each other.

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Communicating or Connecting

Connection is the skill most couples really need to learn.

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It’s Not About the Dishes!

Most of us think that if I am feeling frustrated about something in my relationship, it’s my partner’s fault: he must be doing something to annoy or hurt me on purpose, or she is the problem and needs “fixing.”

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A key to a new year!

A new year, baby! I love when I first realized that I could start over whenever I want. I don’t have to wait for a new year to have a new beginning. My new beginnings are not limited to culturally dictated calendar cycles. As a young person, my year began in September. As a homeschooling […]

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More Real Life Sex and Relationships

Americans are having less sex An active sex life is the accepted norm for American singles. Media is sexually explicit, sexting is common, and our culture is more tolerant of sex in a wide range of permutations. Yet, Americans are having less sex with each other than they were 10 years ago.  There has also been […]

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Estrangement and the Holiday Season

Home for the Holidays I love everything about the holidays. I grew up in a family that made a big deal out of it. My mom starts decorating the day after Thanksgiving and to this day, asks my brothers and me for our Christmas lists. But, the holidays aren’t easy for everyone and can be […]

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