Author: Hayley Hoffman
What Imago Taught Me About Real Connection For 25 years, I was married to an active alcoholic. I spent so many nights believing that if I just found the right words, used the gentle tone, picked the perfect moment, or was the most understanding partner ever—he’d finally choose us over drinking. I tried everything. It took me a long […]
READ ARTICLEWe are at the time of the year when we review and make commitments for the next year. Taking an inventory of what you have and what you need has merit. And is often a short lived aspirational thought. Ah January! Looking back and looking forward, the very heart of the meaning of Janus: the […]
READ ARTICLEI don’t know about you, but I feel the time between Thanksgiving and the New Year is complicated. A friend of mine refers to this time of the year as the holler-daze! So, what should a relational peep do when so much fills the space between us?! Holidays, family time, geo-politics – all these create […]
READ ARTICLETalk less! Harville Hendrix says “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” Talking, the way we try to connect, often becomes the very thing that causes distress and rupture. When we are activated, what if we pause. When in doubt do nothing. Breathe. Notice and name what you can about You. […]
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READ ARTICLELoneliness and isolation is slowly killing people and eroding the most fundamental thing that makes us human. We are wired to be connected to one another. And when we withdraw, isolate, fail to ask for help, refuse to offer aid, we get better at being alone.
READ ARTICLEWhat we say is important, how we say it is paramount.
READ ARTICLEReplace New Year’s resolutions with aspirations, dreams and self-compassion.
READ ARTICLEDo things to be consciously connected to each other. It’s amazing how your relationship will transform.
READ ARTICLESurvival By survival, I mean our default wiring that is always scanning the horizon for cues or signals of danger. It could be as minor as an autonomic uh-oh. Or as big as hell no! We are wired for survival, as evidenced by our actual survival. Negative bias has something to do with this success. […]
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