Change your lens, change your relationship! First of all, how would your relationship be different if you approached your partner reflecting on two questions: What can I celebrate in my partner? and 2. What’s right with our relationship? This...
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Navigating a world where there’s no room for parenthood. When I moved to the U.S. I knew I was giving up many things for a better career. I would miss the food back home, my former lifestyle, and, most...
What do rubber bands, willow trees, and roly-poly dolls have in common? Answer: Flexibility under pressure and the capacity to bounce back after stress. In other words: resilience! The past two years have called for all kinds of resilience...
In a session I had recently with a couple, a husband told his wife that he wants to help her find peace when she is “off the rails.” He does this by problem-solving and suggesting different ways of looking...
Hall of Famers At Bat John Gottman’s research tells us that 67%* of the differences between partners are unresolvable and THIS is the good news. Recently I was talking shop with my brother, whose field of work is vastly...
Boundaries are the root of self-care and are necessary for creating a healthy life. They are limits we create for ourselves to have the life we want and deserve as unique human beings. They are not the rules and...
The beginning of the new year is a fascinating time. It’s an invitation to begin again as if embarking on a new journey with a fresh start to (re)create, (re)construct, and (re)adjust your paradigm for the year ahead. After...
As we looked back on the last year, my husband said, “we have had an amazing year, despite all of the hard things that have happened.” I looked at him blankly and said “I heard you say that we...
“The dreams that you have while you are asleep can provide a fascinating, revealing, and interesting window into your unconscious mind. How much do you share and talk about your dreams with your partner? How much do you know...
Though they might use different words to express it, philosophers, religious figures, and psychologists appear to agree that the perfect is the enemy of the good–that unrealistic expectations are the bane of true satisfaction. The following four myths of...