Category: Communication
Couples do not need to repair every conflict in three minutes to have a lasting relationship—but learning how to come back to each other, with less delay and more kindness, can transform the way love feels over time. The Myth of the 3-Minute Repair Not long ago, an Instagram post stopped me mid-scroll. It claimed […]
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How emotional awareness can shift the energy between you Ever get caught in a moment with your partner and think, I don’t even know what I’m feeling… I just know I’m upset? Or maybe you’re on the other side of it: your partner is reacting strongly, and you’re left wondering, What in the world just […]
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So many times, when things are hard in a relationship, anything you do can feel dangerous. Smiling or not smiling, replying or not replying… every decision feels like it could spark another tense moment or another rupture. And this makes sense! Harville Hendrix says, “Talking is the most dangerous thing we do in our relationships.” […]
READ ARTICLEWhy asking for what you need is a strength, not a weakness Have you ever found yourself feeling hurt or disappointed that your partner didn’t meet a need you never actually said out loud? You were hoping they’d notice you were struggling, offer support, reach for your hand, or say just the right thing. And […]
READ ARTICLEWhy slowing down just for a moment can change everything Ever blurt something out and immediately wish you could hit rewind? You’re not alone. When we feel triggered, our brains switch into survival mode: we either gear up to fight (I must win this) or we shut down and disappear. And in that reactive space, […]
READ ARTICLEOne small shift that can help you come back together faster Ever find yourself stuck in a bad vibe with your partner, even after the argument is technically over? The tension hangs in the air. No one’s saying anything hurtful, but something still feels off. It’s easy in those moments to stay guarded, focused on […]
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The holiday season has a way of shining a light on our deepest longings. Twinkling lights, C music, family gatherings, matching pajamas, social media posts filled with “perfect” couples and families—this time of year can stir both joy and ache. For some, the holidays are warm and grounding. For others, they highlight loneliness, conflict, or […]
READ ARTICLEWe all mess up in relationships. We say something sharp. We go silent. We roll our eyes without meaning to. And sometimes, even when we don’t intend it, our impact stings our partner. Here’s the truth: connection isn’t about never messing up. It’s about knowing how to come back. Why Repair Matters In the Imago […]
READ ARTICLEWhat your body might be saying — even when your words sound nice We’ve all been there: trying to say the “right” thing in a hard conversation… but our partner still pulls away or shuts down. Here’s the truth: you can have the best words in the world, but if your tone is sharp, your […]
READ ARTICLEWhy your partner’s perspective doesn’t have to match yours to matter In the Imago Dialogue, every conversation begins with an invitation: I’d like to invite you to come into my world. Are you available? When the receiver says yes, they’re agreeing to cross a bridge, to step away from their own familiar landscape of needs, […]
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