Conquering the Comparing Mind with Imago

Although what rested at the bottom of my cup was not “guilt” so much
as “shame.” Shame. This has meant for me a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that I was liable to say exactly the wrong thing at exactly the wrong time. From an early age I felt different than others. I perceived myself as usually less than, less popular, less successful, less socially graceful.

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Loneliness is killing us.

Loneliness and isolation is slowly killing people and eroding the most fundamental thing that makes us human. We are wired to be connected to one another. And when we withdraw, isolate, fail to ask for help, refuse to offer aid, we get better at being alone.

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Rules of Engagement: getting along by looking for connection

What we say is important, how we say it is paramount.

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Breaking up with a friend sucks too.

Does the concept of disenfranchised grief resonate with you?

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Empathic Relationships: Prioritizing Serving over Fixing and Helping

During challenging relationship times, it is essential to explore ways to enhance connection and communication.  Changing our mindset and approach away from fixing and helping can catalyze a move toward a safer place. Examining on fixing and helping offers insight into ongoing relationship struggles.  Fixing suggests something amiss, possibility in how our partner handled the […]

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5 Things You Can Do to Create Connection

Do things to be consciously connected to each other. It’s amazing how your relationship will transform.

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Being a Couples Therapist Has Taught Me About Friendship

Friendships are similar to romantic relationships, intention makes them better.

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Surviving or Thriving?

Survival By survival, I mean our default wiring that is always scanning the horizon for cues or signals of danger. It could be as minor as an autonomic uh-oh. Or as big as hell no! We are wired for survival, as evidenced by our actual survival. Negative bias has something to do with this success. […]

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Imago on the Spectrum

Imago Relationship Therapy works for us because it brings intentionality, rules and time.

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Dream Relationship Checklist

Surviving or Thriving What if there was a checklist of things we could do to have our DREAM relationship? Dreaming, envisioning, aspiring, these are invitations to curiosity, hope, and self-awareness. When curiosity is on board, connection is possible. Curiosity is a close cousin to safety. Relationships thrive when there is safety. When in distress we […]

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