"The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences."
Relationships are like roller coasters, they all go through their highs and lows. What can make for even more low periods than normal is stress. Stress can take an incredible toll on two people that are committed to each other and turn it into a rough experience. Read more »
During my training in Imago Relationship Therapy, one phrase has always stuck with me: "No one teaches us how to be in relationships." If we have parents with a good marriage, modeling can be a great teacher but it's still not the exact same thing as what it truly means to learn relationship skills. Intimate relationships are some of the hardest work we will ever have to do in our lifetime. People are complex and relationships are complex and navigating it all can be quite tricky. There are no classes in school that teach the art of relationships. Read more »
By now, most of us have heard the term, “Man up!”, but if you haven’t, it is a term used to very strongly encourage boys, young men, and adult males, to show more so-called “strength”. It is a term commonly used to shame boys and men, into acting the way past generations feel they should act; with little emotion, and a lot of bravado. But what does this term- among many others- do to the psyche of young children? Read more »
"Much of our activity these days is nothing more than a cheap anesthetic to deaden the pain of an empty life." ~ Unknown
Echoing the wisdom of the world religions, new research suggests that people spending money on "stuff" rather than life enhancing experiences "are sacrificing well-being for a sense of value that never materializes." The attached article (click link below) explores this research. Read more »
As soon as my couples get serious about using conflict to grow rather than to wound or make the other "wrong," things change quickly and dramatically. In the attached article (click link below), Brian Gersho writes, "If you were to witness a healthy couple disagreeing on an issue, it would be hard to determine that they were having a difference of opinion because of the how skilled they are in having a respectful discussion/disagreement."
Happiness is an elusive topic that has been studied and contemplated by many throughout history. While there are many theories and ideas of what it means to be happy, I decided to focus on the relational aspect of happiness in this blog. As an Imago relationship therapist and someone who specializes in helping my clients achieve happy and healthy relationships I have come to view much of happiness through a relational lens. Read more »