"The emotional bond created by romantic love evolves into a powerful organic bond through the process of resolving conflict."
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
There are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ people. Some are a little better or a little worse but all are activated more by misunderstanding than malice. A blindness to what is going on in each other’s hearts.…. Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see each other in life.~Tennessee Williams Read more »
Why is it that most people cannot remember much of their early childhood, especially anything before age 2 or 3? Many things took place during those early years, things that became foundational for later experiential interpretation, yet most of us cannot recall early events. Without early language skills and without a well-formed sense of “self”, young children may not have the capacity to form cognitive memories that can be easily retrieved later on. Read more »
In many of my sessions with clients I see a common theme that disrupts their happiness and sense of self worth. Many people care too much about what other people think and it greatly impacts the choices they make. To start, here are some of the reasons we may care too much about what others think: Read more »
I watched the supper bowl half time show. Beyonce was just fantastic! She is such a celebrity!I have always been curious about our fascination with celebrities. Maybe we try to attach our identity to theirs to feel successful, beautiful or powerful. It is fun to dress up like a celebrity or to buy the products they endorse. Read more »
In my work as a couples therapist, I often have couples complain to me about their partner's anger management issues. As a mother myself, I never knew how angry I could get until I had children!
Chronic anger can erode and break relationships and has a huge long-term physical, emotional, interpersonal, and spiritual costs. Read more »
Ever since I began what has since become a multi-faceted career revolving around human psychology, behavior, and performance, I have been fascinated with the science (and even the oddball speculation) that underlies whether, and how, people are able to bring about what they say they want. I have been convinced that success isn’t merely a question of wishing, affirming, or declaring something into existence as the "Law of Attraction" movement might lead you to believe. Read more »
Even after a career as a human performance specialist and now as a life coach and therapist, I'm still naïve enough to be tempted to implement a dozen or so good New Year's resolutions. But this year I'm clinging to two principles: "First things first" and "biggest bang for the buck." Read more »
In my latest blog post for Pamela's Punch, I explore how to talk to people who are going through loss: How to Talk to Grieving People