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A New Year, a New Decade, A New Me

5 Steps to guide you in leaving the past behind and moving toward your future We all say goodbye many times throughout our lives. We say goodbye to friends,…

Men and Grief

The Well of Grief Those who will not slip beneath the still surface on the well of grief turning downward through its black water to the place we cannot…

Trauma Shapes Our Relationships

Trauma 101Peter Levine, Ph.D., a pioneer in body-oriented psychotherapy, describes an epiphany he had while treating a woman who suffered from excruciating agoraphobia (an extreme or irrational fear of…

Why go to couples therapy if you already have a great relationship?

If like me, you were raised to believe that therapy meant something was wrong with you, you are not alone. I have come to learn by personal experience and…

Dating in the Age of Apps

A cheat sheet for dating in a digital worldHuman beings are wired to be in relationship.  Connection is fundamental to our wellbeing, and people who are in positive relationships…

Can We Talk About Sex?

Is there a pattern here?“When was the last time you two had sex and was it satisfying?” Couples coming to me for the first time will be asked this…

Reflections on Fatherhood

Father’s Day is an occasion for me to reflect on how I’m doing as a father and how my relationship with my own father influenced the relationship I have…

Fight Fair

How often do I hear: “we just need to learn how to fight fair?” The most self-reported reason I hear for coming into couples counseling is “the problem is…

Toxic Femininity

Many of my clients come to me because they are experiencing anxiety and depression due to a toxic work environment. What has always been most surprising to me in…

Using your wisdom as you age

Suddenly having a house devoid of children, when they’d been the major focus in my life for 20 + years, isn’t an easy adjustment. Having my sights set on…

Discharging Your Loyal Soldier

I love the following reflection from Richard Rohr, a wise Franciscan priest, who founded the Center for Action and Contemplation. The vivid metaphor of the loyal soldier resonates deeply…

There is no room for criticism

Somehow we are wired to be in relationship with other people. And yet it is the most challenging that we do. People in relationships live in constant connection with…