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A cheat sheet for dating in a digital world Human beings are wired to be in relationship. Connection is fundamental to our wellbeing, and people who are in positive…
Is there a pattern here? “When was the last time you two had sex and was it satisfying?” Couples coming to me for the first time will be asked…
Category: Imago, Couples, Marriage, Relationship, Therapy, Group Therapy, Communication
August 25, 2019
Father’s Day is an occasion for me to reflect on how I’m doing as a father and how my relationship with my own father influenced the relationship I have…
How often do I hear: “we just need to learn how to fight fair?” The most self-reported reason I hear for coming into couples counseling is “the problem is…
Many of my clients come to me because they are experiencing anxiety and depression due to a toxic work environment. What has always been most surprising to me in…
Suddenly having a house devoid of children, when they’d been the major focus in my life for 20 + years, isn’t an easy adjustment. Having my sights set on…
I love the following reflection from Richard Rohr, a wise Franciscan priest, who founded the Center for Action and Contemplation. The vivid metaphor of the loyal soldier resonates deeply…
Somehow we are wired to be in relationship with other people. And yet it is the most challenging that we do. People in relationships live in constant connection with…
In a conversation I recently had with Harville Hendrix, I understood him to say that couples come into therapy hoping to improve their communication skills, when what they really…
Category: Marriage, Imago, Couples, Relationship, Therapy, Communication
March 2, 2019
At our most recent 2-day Getting the Love You Want couples’ workshop, my husband Jason and I accompanied eight lovely couples on a rich experiential journey. Halfway through the…
Category: Imago, Couples, Marriage, Relationship, Therapy
February 19, 2019
Many people would agree that transition is the word of the day. We live in a rapidly changing world and most of us are in some sort of transition…
THE HAPPINESS PARADOX Most people would say they seek happiness and avoid its opposite. This is true enough, but my experience as a therapist, educator, and self-reflective human being…
